Archive for February, 2013

How do we Choose to Honor the Goddess?

So you are on your way to meet your new Goddess healer or shall we say Dakini or shall we say Tantrika. How flippantly we use these phrases but do we even care what they mean? I have been in my field for over 15 years and thank Goddess I still look young but that is because despite what I offer my sessions are not about my needs they are my student’s needs but they exclude my body meaning when someone wishes to learn Goddess Worship I am very careful about the energies we share depending upon the motivations of someone who comes to see me especially the first time they see me.

Some people do not understand what Goddess worship is. They assume that Goddess worship means the Goddess honors them blindly and will do anything in her personal power to make him happy (no matter what). No that is not the meaning of Goddess worship.

Other people new to Goddess worship assume that a Goddess is a Domina and she is a dominant which means the student will blindly worship her and he will subjugate himself to his Goddess do anything she wishes which includes house chores, humiliation or a light spanking and whipping with a paddle… and No that is not Goddess worship either.

Goddess worship is the art of seeking to heal your partner’s scar tissue and deep emotional wounds. The pelvis or pelvic cradle does carry much trauma and deep emotional scar tissue from early childhood upbringing and or abusive sexual and or personal relationships one has had with their parents, or elders or past loves and lovers.

Goddess worship is best explored in the context of putting one’s selfish needs to the side. Goddess worship does not mean you are having your Goddess as a Dessert. Goddess worship is not blind groping and fondling of the Goddess in front of you for your selfish needs and desires. In fact if you are in poor physical shape and you can barely breathe properly into your own heart there is going to be limited ability for you to breakthrough and heal the Goddess or heal her yoni scar tissue.

In order to approach Goddess worship in the correct spirit and manner you must approach your Goddess with complete reverence and a very bad way for you to begin any Goddess worship ceremony with your new Goddess teacher is by insulting her on her choice of clothing or coming to her Sacred Space with judgements on her taste of decoration or going through her things without her permission. Some people feel that because they have paid for a session they are owed a certain sense of entitlement or privileges. This is not the case at all. Typically a prior conversation with your Goddess is the perfect time to address any issues you have with personal hygiene and or living space arrangement. If you know your hostess has pets are you prepared to offer a kennel fee in advance so the pets will not be in her space. Are you willing to take allergy pills beforehand if you have allergies to dander? Are you coming to her space fully awake and refreshed or are you going to be doing some light drinking or coming to her home directly after a dinner party? All these things are very relevant and important to discuss with your Goddess.

Are you calling your Goddess just fifteen minutes before 11 pm at night expecting her to come to your hotel room and give you a healing and pampering session yet you decide you want a Goddess ceremony for a shorter length of time because it is the end of the day for you yet you wish to honor her. Does that feel respectful to you? If you are not giving adequate notice and you are not willing to come close to her price requirements then you are probably not truly honoring the goddess you are taking advantage of someone’s kindness..

Compassion and an open heart are key tools to honoring the Goddess. If you contact your Goddess early in the day and you have agreed to the correct tribute that honors her energy then you are on your way to understanding the nuances of Goddess healings.
Goddess worship is not about taking advantage of someone’s kindness and pressuring her to show her special techniques to you upon command. If you have only had a handful of tantra healings yourself and if you are not practicing these techniques daily or following up on DVD’s or workshops for beginners then you are not being fair to yourself or your goddess. You must be honest with your Goddess and tell her how little or how much practical experience you do have with honoring Goddess energy. As a beginner you start with baby steps until you yourself feel enough self confidence to learn more intricate ceremonial offerings. You want to approach this type of work with reverence and not rush the experience.

If you are on a budget and all you can afford is a mini session once a month then at least you are achieving and working towards a goal. Goddess worship sessions are most ideal when you already have someone special in your life and you simply want your partner or sacred other to reap the benefits of your new found joy and knowledge of sacred touch.

You should always let your Goddess do all the leading because the Goddess you chose is a unique guide and it is her intuition and her inner voice that feels your energy and she will intuitively pick up on how ready and prepared you are based on your confidence or awkwardness.

No one likes to feel pressured into doing something that is against their free will. Each goddess is a Sacred Other and if you are in tune with her energies and her needs and you can simply slow down and let go of your needs and your ego and impulses then you can build your ability to tune into your own innate Divine Feminine energy which runs through you in the form of Kundalini Shakti.

We don’t try to conquer the Yoni we try to heal her and send her focused love with the intentions of having her awaken on her time table NOT YOURS.

Goddess worship is Sacred. Goddess Worship is a Sacrament. Each time we touch the yoni we have the unique opportunity to gaze upon her loveliness and feel her powerful energy as Sacred mother and Source. If we do not approach the yoni with reverence we only injure her and harm ourselves karmically. We can only build trust and love by going inwards and stopping ourselves in our tracks to give some positive reflection of what we seek when we seek to touch yoni.

If you are prepared to give a Goddess healing honor your Goddess. Bring her a special house warming gift. Bring her a piece of your genuineness and share your softness with her but do not be demanding or threatening or withholding because that will close off her yoni flower and the yoni is the most positive representative of Divine creator we have so she shall not be Squandered or dismissed.

Be aware that each time you breathe into your heart chakra you have the unique power to bless the sacred mother simply by being a present and conscious lover.

Goddess Diana Sacred Space Tantra Butterfly

The yoni is a Sacred Temple

Goddess Diana My Sacred Yoni of Empowerment…

My yoni is a healer.  She deserves to be honored.  My yoni is a Sacred vessel of unity and divine light.  The yoni is not only an object of devotion but she actually sends out a radiance of pure healing light.  During ceremony I am constantly pulsing my yoni for it is this act alone that sends a powerful message of love.  I find that if I just focus on my breathing alone and I do not contract my yoni muscles my partner simply does not feel the full benefit of my healing touch. 

We consciously send forth powerful love pulses with each simple contraction.  Must a Goddess be  breathtakingly beautiful in order for a man to feel her sacred healing vibe?  This is confusing to many men who simply have no idea what a tantra ceremony involves.

Tantra is a portal of honoring the Sacred other.  The more we learn to accept and honor all forms of beauty the more open our hearts become.  We as goddesses should not mock the work of our sister goddesses nor should we steal or copy or plagiarize their unique styles.

The yoni is a vessel of rebirth and so many emotions are experienced during a tantra healing.  First there is the emotion of fear and nervousness.  It is not easy to bare your soul or share your sacred sexual energy with another.  If you have gone without genuine tenderness for months or years and you decide to invest in yourself and spent time and money on a tantra ceremony then you want to feel safe and you may want to feel you were listened to and you were genuinely cared for.  Sometimes we go through layers of hidden rage and you hold in that rage and never communicate with your healer but you decide to take out that buried anger by using the tactics of slander or outbursts to heal your wounds.  The yoni is a Sacred vessel and she might take you on a journey of fear and rage.  We have to let go of the rage and hurt to explore our inner magic.  If we have numbed ourselves to the point where we have not even cuddled another person the act of simply spooning someone is painful. 

During my many ceremonies I worked with men who were desensitized to the point where they could not feel their own energy circulating in their bodies.  They got discouraged after just one session but tantra uncovers all your layers and there is no quick fix to years of pain.  Talk therapy along with tantra is wise.  If there are buried energies inside your second sexual chakra you have to somehow release that pain and let it out through the throat chakra and other channels. 

When the time is right you will naturally want to let go and release and relax.  The yoni is the Sacred mother … the Sacred Womb and the Sacred Birth place. If you send out so much anger at your healer you are only sending out misdirected anger at your childhood.  None of us had the chance as young children to fully verbalize all our needs.  We had no voice …we could only cry if we were hungry or scared or discouraged or uncomfortable.  Now as adults we do have a voice and we can release in a very healing and positive way.  Tantra is an exploration of honoring your Divine feminine even if you are a born a male.  All women and men carry the spark of God and Goddess energies equally.  This is called the yin and the yang.  All our organs are either yin or yang and we attract and repel.  If you can send unconditional love to all aspects of your personality then you are in touch with your unique gifts.  It takes a lot of work to love your weaknesses and to forgive those that sent cruelty your way.  If you encounter anger when you meet your teacher step back for a bit and ask yourself what is it about this person that scares you?  If you are simply not ready for the journey of self discovery then you may wish to hold off the ceremony for a future date but if you plunge in and you work with your healer then you can uncover some shaky truths and work on your foundation.