Tantra massage in Chicago

About Diana offull-image-for-tantra Tantra Butterfly

Many of my prospective clients ask me the all important question:

“What exactly is Tantra?”

My initial reaction is to pause and think to myself if I were a new student to this tantric path what would make me wish to continue or begin this new journey? If I were a new student to Tantra what would make me grasp this concept and take this belief system from its place in the esoteric realm to a more solid level of my own understanding? What would I gain in experiencing a tantric healing? Does Tantra simply mean sex? Will the study of this practice heal my old wounds or would it take me into a scary place I do not wish to explore? Of course all new students of Tantra may share these fears and some new students might even fear it will be a shallow or even disappointing experience. All these fears are valid and this is why I am now taking the time to explain a little bit about the word Tantra and what it is I do and the role I play as your tantric teacher and tantric healer.

The Word Tantra is taken from its ancient Sanskrit roots and simply means to weave and expand and just like the threads of a loom the threads join and intertwine with each other forming a beautiful and interconnected tapestry . The word Tantra in and of itself is a connective force just like the word “Akasha” which translated from Sanskrit means the collective primary substance out of which all things are formed. During the practice of Tantra we engage all our senses and acknowledge our unique male and female energies as complete halves of a whole. We acknowledge and honor ourselves as we acknowledge the Divinity in our tantric partners. During my tantric healings I focus on your needs and my goal is to keep you present in the moment with me as your shamanic guide. A true tantric is one who follows the path of simply “being”. So many times we are so lost in thoughts that we are not experiencing the moment. We dwell on the past which we can not change or we worry about the future which we do have the potential to change if we simply live for now in the present. Our future is affected by how we treat ourselves and others with the time we have NOW.

My intention as your tantric guide is to keep you focused in the present and give you the opportunity to experience all aspects of your nature not just a part of your persona. My personal responsibility is to take you to the edge and to challenge you and give you that unique opportunity to change so you can manifest greater joy in your life and not just daydream about it! Just imagine if you could step out of your normal zone of comfort and take this spiritual journey with me expanding your energy and awareness so you can become more aware and awake.

Do you have additional questions? Your questions can be answered if you directly follow the link to my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com.

My website is explicit and directly to the point. In the event you have issues understanding the tantra verbage then I advise you to schedule a one hour coffee consultation with me and your consultation fee acts as a deposit towards your future tantra massage here in Chicago.

Goddess Diana of http://www.tantrabutterfly

Tantra massage in Chicago is geared towards your specific goals.

Tantra massage in Chicago aides in your ability to stay focused in the moment and be fully present to receive healing energies.

Your chakras will be fully accessible and activated during our tantra ceremony here in Chicago.

Kindly read all the information on my tantra massage services here in Chicago or if you are already prepared for this healing journey and process call me directly at 312 339 7707 and let’s share positive energies.

I don’t like hypocrites don’t patronize me

Most people I meet here who are true native Chicagoans don’t make sense to me at all.

I’ll give you an example. I was at chiya chai in logan square over the weekend and this random female stranger with her friend knew my name and sat down beside me so excited because she said she’s a “HUGE fan of mine”.

She said she watched and appreciates my YouTube videos because she’s deeply interested in tantra.Yet when I asked if she personally subscribed to my channel she said No.
She is a licenced massage therapist who works In Chicago and said she sees me everywhere and she just invested $6000 of her money towards an online long distance course so she can be certified in sexual energy work.
She said part of the course required her to hire and receive sexual healing services from a trained professional yet she admitted she’s getting people she knows off the internet who aren’t truly trained but who are obviously excited about these studies so they are all working on eachother for free as trades yet not one of them is formally licensed yet.
She said she was THINKING of hiring me but she hasn’t supported my public Facebook pages nor has she subscribed to my channel nor has she called me to discuss the possibility of booking a session for herself. Oh and furthermore while she’s actively enjoyed my YouTube channel she hasn’t ever brought herself to actually hire me. Here’s the funny part though; she strongly suggested I contract her massage therapy services but isn’t that solicitation?  In other words I should hire her but I’m not professional enough according to her standards to be hired for my knowledge of traditional tantra massage and yoni healing.
She admitted to me her mother recently died leaving her with money and this woman is my age and definitely doesn’t take good care of her physical health because she definitely didn’t age well yet she’s deeply desirous of obtaining a degree long distance online yet not interested in hiring a trained professional to work on her– yet I’m supposed to believe SHE’S A FAN WHO ADMIRES ME!?

oh yeah so then she offered me a free passcode into her online course illegally so I could take the course instructions for free and cheat this school?!

I’ve learned a lot in my lifetime…mostly that my peers are hypocrites.

They claim to be admirous of the work I do yet they aren’t keen on hiring me, nor liking my Facebook pages, or referring me to friends or even subscribing to my channel. For some odd reason I’m viewed here as an oddity or a stigma.

I’ve nothing more to contribute today…

I’m tired of trying to understand what motivates people into deceiving themselves and others.

One thing I truly hate most though are liars and hypocrites.  If you can’t support fellow healers by OPENLY liking their public pages or YouTube channels then you’re not a TRUE FAN.  When you decide I’m simply not good enough to hire for private reiki or tantra healings then don’t profess to be my fan.

I hate lukewater people. You either decide to forge ahead with a session to give their services an honest try for yourself or you’re deceiving yourself.

Sex workers should support eachother.  I’ve been following my true passion for 25 years and if my own Native Chicagoans can’t fully honor my convictions and my skillset then don’t profess to be my fan or ally. You are neither.yQlt5q0FaVzNpY4iYTFzNqBJZy9

Chicago Outcall Tantra Massage🧸

The title should be apparent that I prefer to offer my tantra massage services as an outcall therapist available to visit you in your home, Airbnb, and hotel.

Please take note that I am not a professional Courtesan nor am I a Nuru therapist or a GFE. If you are truly seeking the services of a Professional prostitute then you should definitely do a thorough search on the internet specifically for those key words.

I also offer half day and full day tantra spa journeys and retreats that I can set up for you anywhere in the city of Chicago with an advanced deposit from you to cover the cost of the spa space I pick out for our ceremony together.

If you choose to pick out the space ahead of time we can discuss all the details over the phone or in person over a paid coffee consultation.

There is absolutely nothing complicated about arranging a session.  If you already are visiting the city of Chicago you are encouraged and welcome to contact me the day of your arrival or a day before and I’ll visit you at your Airbnb, Corporate residence or hotel with everything needed to create a perfect tantra massage ceremony.

You can hire me multiple times during your visit or block out a specific portion of time with me and I’ll accommodate your free time. If you are a Chicago resident and already have a home base here in the city you can have me visit you in your private residence or we can book a special day together away from your home to keep your private address discrete.

I am focused on separating my private space from all tantra ceremonies.  If anything changes I’ll keep everyone informed.  For now I truly enjoy designing a cozy haven in your space or hotel so you can completely relax and enjoy all the positive energies we shared together and you don’t need to travel to another destination.

If you have the desire and budget for a half day or full day of tantra I can arrange a beautiful space with an advanced deposit and a firm date based on our availability.

The title of this article should make it clear that your session will be including a traditional massage, sensual touch, breathing coaching, edge play, mutual cuddling, aromatherapy and anything included on my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com.

I’d love to be given the honor and opportunity to be your future tantra guide and outcall massage therapist here in Chicago.

Tantra is extremely nurturing, nourishing, relaxing and invigorating.  Your needs will be met within the boundaries stipulated on my website.

Tantra promotes full body sensory awareness and a greater ability to be more psychically aware.  Tantra teaches you about setting healthy boundaries with yourself and your partner.  You can become more centered and communicative which will definitely help you attract healthier sexual partners and opportunities for self growth.

Chicago outcall tantra massage is ideal for everyone seeking a blissful escape from work.  So many of us become distracted or over stimulated during a work day.  Some people have such a difficult time letting go of their thoughts and worries.  Tantra and proper breath coaching helps you release all that background noise going on in your mind. I will keep you in the moment and help your body unwind.

For further information please introduce yourself to me via email or by phone.  You may also fill out the contact form on my website them call me directly at 312 339 7707

Please be aware you are always welcome to call me the day of a session if you already have a place for us to meet.

Tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com

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You have contracted my services…now what?

This article is meant to guide and enlighten you so that you receive the most loving and heartfelt healing touch I am capable of offering you.

You may have never received a tantra massage before so let me give you a few basic pointers so you receive the best session for your needs.

First of all if you still don’t understand my pricing system and if my services confuse you then let’s meet up together for a coffee.  A coffee consultation helps you meet me in person and you are encouraged to ask me questions and share your goals with me before we actually have a session together.  The key word here is Togetherness or UNITY.  If we meet for coffee I can assure you you’re going to feel a lot more comfortable and more understood.

Right before we have a session I advise you to get enough sleep, avoid drinking alcohol, avoid a heavy meal and to stay hydrated.  Water is perfect for helping you detoxify and during our tantra session I’ll be helping you move a lot of “sludge” or “stuck” energies.  You will need to drink water before, during and after our session to help you move those impurities out of your body.

Now that you’ve shared a few goals with me over coffee and now that you’re well rested and hydrated your session will be more enjoyable and the potential for full body bliss exploration is within your realm of possibilities.

Please bare in mind I’m a massage therapist and a trained and licensed tantra massage educator with traditional training in Usui Reiki. I am not an escort service so do not misconstrue my tantra massage offerings for escort related services.  If you proposition me inappropriately or make me feel unsafe I may decide to end our session early.

You and I agree to honor and respect eachother and our set of boundaries.  I tend to be very generous and empathetic but that does not give you permission to take advantage of my kind nature and push my boundaries or guilt me into offering a service that isn’t listed on my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com.

If I go out of my way to accommodate you and we accidentally go over our allotted time together then a tip is always appreciative and appropriate for my services rendered. I am a professional business owner just like any other business professional you may encounter and I do like being appreciated so I do accept tips, referrals and positive reviews.

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Do not disrespect me or violate my boundaries

Right after I finished eating my delicious sushi meal …I had a very strange urge to go online and Google up my public tantra page TANTRA BUTTERFLY and found this ugly and SLANDEROUS review which of course brought my score of 4.6 back down to 4.4

On Monday against my better judgment I accepted an extremely low almost HUMILIATING discounted price for my tantra massage services by a legally blind and EXTREMELY MANIPULATIVE blind man who is a life coach who actually has a Facebook profile.

After going all the way from Schaumburg in the pouring rain and incurring my own personal expenses to take transportation to him I accepted a fee of $250 for 2 full hours of tantra massage.  Please note the price was agreed on for a tantra massage NOT an escort session!

I am not a prostitute nor am I an escort service. I am a trained Reiki Master and Licensed tantra educator from Source School of tantra with 25 years of experience in alternative healing, tantra massage, reiki and deep tissue massage.

During the final 30 minutes of our time together Muhammed Noman asked to go down on me not once but twice! I declined his PROPOSITION, packed up all my belongings and left unceremoniously. At this particular point I felt disgusted, disgraced, disrespected and dishonored.

He was warned that if he attempted to charge back our session or slander me online I would post his actions against me on my online blog and on all forms of my social media here and on my YouTube channel.

I’m warning people in my field not to take him on as a client because he chose to retaliate against me and because he has in some way defiled me online and tried to violate my personal boundaries and safety.

Here is the review he posted of me two days ago on my public business page:

Muhammad Noman Ahmed

2 reviews

2 days ago

My personal experience with Diana was very obnoxious. I am disabled and her behavior towards me was very disrespectful. She is very unfriendly and rude and I would never recommend her services

TONIGHT I decided to include his behavior because I have every right to end a session if my boundaries are violated and my personal safety is threatened.

Please do not think that just because you have a disability you are entitled to a huge discount and that you are entitled to any services you wish to receive even though it is not part of the menu of offerings.

I will not tolerate being violated, slandered and blackmailed especially if I was overly generous and went out of my way to offer a greatly reduced price for my tantra massage services.

There is a VAST difference between what I offer and what an escort service chooses to offer.

I am not comfortable crossing that fine line with any of my clients. If I were a professional escort service I would be changing $600 per hour and not $250 for two full hours at a whopping bargain basement price for a selfish, manipulative, emotionally abusive misogynist like MUHAMMAD NOMAN AHMED.

I actually had a very strong premonition against working with him especially since he wanted to know if I give discounts to people with disabilities. I have no qualms offering a BIT of a discount but he actually received my services for less than half of what I normally charge.

From this point on I will need to be much more DISCERNING and careful about who I work with.
Just because someone has a DISABILITY doesn’t mean they are allowed to disrespect you or violate your work and personal boundaries.

Just because an individual is a professional therapist or life coach it doesn’t mean they are not emotionally unstable, retaliatory and MANIPULATIVE.

I have boundaries and I am allowed to state my boundaries and end a session prematurely or abruptly if I am not being honored and respected.

People in my field are often manipulated, taken advantage of, slandered, belittled and blackmailed if we refuse to offer certain services that violate our personal code of safety and ethics.

I have morals and boundaries just like any other trained business professional and I am allowed to have genuine feelings if I’m being emotionally abused by any of my clients.

I will not tolerate bullies who hire me under the false assumption that my VALUE and WORTH is less than any other human being.

No one has an right to force me to do any sexual act that goes against my freewill.
My body is sacred. It may be that this particular individual MOHAMMED NOMAN AHMED doesn’t feel I have value considering how much time he received from me for less than half my normal price but I see things differently.

I was sent in excess of 20 text messages from this unsavory, unethical man who calls himself a life coach. He was incessant that Monday was ideal for us to meet and that he could only afford $250 for 2 hours.

I personally had to travel all the way from the suburbs, incur my own traveling expenses and visit him in a dangerous neighborhood only to be insulted by him when he requested to EAT ME!

YES he asked me twice for sexually exploitive services for a BARGAIN BASEMENT PRICE.
Muhammed Noman Ahmed is an example of a client I DO NOT WISH TO WORK ON.

I May decide not to accept anyone who requests sliding fees based on this particular negative and exploitive experience.

I had of course missed my last bus for the evening and I was forced to spend $30 of my own money just to get home safely and when I did get home trust me I had a good cry.

I hope that people understand that EMPATHY and COMPASSION and RESPECT should always be extended to any sex worker or sex educator that you encounter.

Please treat us as you would treat any business professional and if you are refused a service and you are told A FIRM NO then don’t be childish by retaliation with fake, unfair, unjust reviews.

Now I still have a lot left to say because I’m not quite over my anger.  I have two pets I take care of, no family members, two separate sets of storage fees, a huge monthly phone bill for my private business, ongoing website costs and high weekly rental fees. If you think I will tolerate abusive behavior and bullying I won’t.  I have ZERO tolerance for slander especially when I know I issued a genuinely generous discount to anyone who needed a sliding fee discount.

When I contracted to work with Muhammed Noman Ahmed (life coach at 310-536-6289) he claimed he had read my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com in full. If you read my website CAREFULLY you will plainly see I have a full page dedicated to ETIQUETTE.  On my ETIQUETTE page you will read that I’m not a professional escort.  I am not offering services that you would receive from a paid escort. My fair pricing is not a substitute or POOR MAN’S version of a low budget option for clients who are seeking escort services but simply can’t afford these higher prices.  I was BEYOND ANGRY AT this man Muhammed Noman Ahmed for taking advantage of my generous discount then asking me twice towards the end of our session if he could EAT MY PUSSY.  Obviously this individual had shown me he regards me as a bargain basement cheap whore for rent because he devalues women in my field or all women in general.

I do not offer escort services.  I teach goddess worship, I offer tantra bathing ceremonies, I’m a level 3 reiki master and I’m a licensed tantra educator.  I am not for sale. My body is NOT FOR SALE.  I AM NOT a human punching bag. My services are available to anyone who genuinely seeks a traditional tantra session or a fully clothed reiki session or cuddle therapy session.  This particular individual thought he could get away with lying about what truly transpired during our time together in his small studio apartment on Foster Avenue.

Can you imagine how upset and violated I felt being PROPOSITIONED after I spent half my day traveling to his apartment in the rain, unpacking all my essential oils and incense and working DEEPLY on his major muscle groups?  I put everything I spiritually had within me to create a safe, loving, healing vibe to this unsavory, ungrateful, perverse pervert whose only true motivation was to see if he could take full advantage of me based on his disability then solicit me for something I don’t even offer on my website! If this is the way most Muslim men view women in my industry then I need to advise my fellow sex workers to be extremely cautious about who they choose to work on simply for safety reasons.  No one likes to be grossly taken advantage of or psychically abused.

I warned him that I would share publicly what he did to me on my social media if he chose to slander me and tonight I am sharing this factual story of what transpired in his home.  I of course had missed my last bus to my home and incurred an additional expense late at night just to make it back to my place by midnight.  I had a good cry that evening and felt deeply hurt, enraged and disappointed with how I was treated with complete disdain and disrespect.  It is NOT OKAY for anyone to treat a sex educator or tantra yoga therapist this way.  Every individual has triggers and boundaries and I felt energetically raped that evening by a so called, self proclaimed life coach.  I definitely have a strong sense of foreboding before taking on certain clients and in Mohammad’s case I feel regretful that I worked with him despite my strong intuition against seeing him.

I’ve said everything I wish to say here this evening and I decided that tomorrow I’ll be creating a special video about how awful it feels to genuinely give someone your very best and then have that same individual cheapen the healing experience by soliciting illegal sexual favors that you are uncomfortable offering.  I also wish to add that when Muhammed Noman Ahmed chose to write a derogatory google review two days ago he not only insinuated I was abusive to people with disabilities but he lied about my normally kind and generous giving nature. If I wish to defend myself based on my moral code and end a session because I no longer feel safe and respected then that is my freewill and choice to make based on someone’s disrespectful and vile actions and behavior.  Being legally blind does not excuse anyone for acting disceitfully or being manipulative.  If I feel threatened and or dishonored I have every right to leave 20 minutes early especially after I’ve already overextended myself by giving someone an overly GENEROUS discount.

I hope anyone reading this article will digest everything I have written and KEENLY intuit that everyone has boundaries and everyone no matter who they are and no matter what profession they choose is entitled to complete respect as a human being with valid emotions and sensitivities.

Just because you choose to hire a sex worker doesn’t mean you own their soul or their body.

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How to receive the most from your future tantra massage🎈

The following few paragraphs are for new clients who want to get the most out of their time with me prior to their first tantra ceremony.

First of all read my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com if you haven’t already done so and if you are truly not someone who likes to read meet me for a coffee consultation soon.

My website is several pages long and provides you with testimonials, a services section, articles, my fees and a thorough description of what tantra is and what tantra massage will do for you and your health.

If you are the kind of person who doesn’t enjoy going through websites I will meet you before our session for a paid coffee consultation and answer your questions in person then use your payment towards a deposit for our future session.

In order for you to receive all the healing benefits of a tantra massage make sure you are well rested prior to your session.  I’d advise anyone to be well hydrated so avoid any beverages like coffee and alcohol that tend to rob your body of fluids.

You should drink enough water beforehand, during our session and after our session because I will be administering bodywork, reiki, traditional tantra yoga and chakra balancing on your physical body and you’re going to need to stay hydrated to release built up toxins after our time together.  You don’t want to wake up feeling sluggish the next day so drinking enough pure water will help your body push out those toxins so you are alive and clear headed the following morning rather than run down.  Trust me I’m going to be giving you a thorough massage as part of our tantra session and you need twice as much water as you normally drink.

Do you have special goals for our shared time together? If you do have secret goals that you wish to accomplish write those requests down and share them with me PRIOR to our session.  I’m not a mind reader and leaving your requests hidden from me will be frustrating for both of us.  I want to make sure we are on even footing beforehand so that you receive the session you have been aching for rather than being resentful towards me afterwards.

Book enough time with me the first time we work together so that you feel refreshed.  Make sure you see me for longer increments of time initially so you have a clear understanding and appreciation for tantra massage and breathing techniques.  There are so many beautiful changes that will happen in your body and I strongly recommend you not cheat yourself  so go in all the way and book 90 minutes to a half day of tantra massage because you will have absolutely no true concept of time.

Tantra yoga massage is a highly enjoyable out of your body experience that keeps you focused on the present.  You will experience tingling, deep relaxation and lightness so make sure you schedule enough time to let go and relax.  Spa retreats are full day journeys that will include pampering services like aromatherapy, tantra bath ceremonies, sound healing and Advanced tantra teachings for beginners and more experienced students of tantra.

I suggest you make sure you are well rested before our session and avoid anything chemical that overstimulates  you or has numbing effects on your physical body.   You should avoid all alcoholic beverages beforehand and simply be ready for a unique journey that you will definitely enjoy.   Get enough rest before we see eachother or if you love to exercise do a light workout prior to our session and get your blood flowing!

Try not to overthink before we meet.  Your session will empower you, refresh you, relax your muscles and give you new insight into bliss, self awareness, self confidence and bodily sensitivities.   I will keep you focused on the present and make sure you are relaxed and breathing deeply during moments of sacred touch.

Your tantra massage session will be flowy, organic and natural so your normal feelings of self consciousness will disappear under my tender and thoughtful touch. I’m highly intuitive and you will be able to let go of your thoughts and just be fully present in the moment and unaware of the passage of time.

Be prepared to receive pleasure because everything we do together will be based on your goals and boundaries and my intuitive knowledge of your body’s needs.  If you can afford to schedule a longer stretch of time do so without regret or hesitation because your body will thoroughly enjoy the sacred touch and the extra time will help you let go of all your blockages that keep you in a stuck place.

Tantra is about moving forward and feeling lighter.  Tantra helps you release negative energies and thought patterns that no longer serve you on your journey.  Tantra will jump start your new career path and help you through all life changing experiences.  Tantra massage will rejuvenate you and even help you focus more on your health especially if you are trying to lose weight or simply be healthier and kinder to your physical body.  Tantra yoga and tantra massage will keep you feeling positive and hopeful despite whatever negative experiences are currently holding you back.   Even if your love life is currently unsatisfying our shared tantra session will brighten your Aura and give you  renewed sense of hope because you will rediscover your potential for bliss.

I look forward to meeting you and helping you create a mind out of body experience that you will remember long after the conclusion of our ceremony no matter how long or short. FB_IMG_1563417179634

 

 

Today is Father’s Day 🧸

Today is Father’s Day but I don’t miss my biological father who physically kicked my mother in the stomach when she was carrying me in her womb. In fact I still don’t respect my own mother who is also deceased because what kind of mother remains married to a man who would attempt to threaten the life of her unborn child?

I’m posting this information not to garner any sympathy but to help people understand that not all of us here had desirable childhoods or pleasant memories of our parents during these traditional Hallmark card American created Holidays.

I’m not even a tad bit sentimental or regretful today because both my parents failed me and they were in a sick codependent relationship with one another and when my mother found out my father was schizophrenic she was even considering an abortion and deeply worried that I myself would develop schizophrenia like my father since it is after all hereditary.

Well my father had a complete nervous meltdown when my mother became pregnant and she told me he had kicked her hard then spent several months in treatment in the hospital for his mental condition.

Medication and talk therapy can only do so much for anyone suffering from delusions and I knew my father became a completely different person when he got angry with me or my mother. You could literally see his dark, black pupils become so enlarged his brown eyes became pitch black and he no longer looked human.

My father was very abusive to me…I have good memories of him when he showed genuine compassion towards me but his cruelty outweighed anything good he showed me and If I could go back in time as a young child I’d love to relive all those scary instances but ideally I would have left my home physically and spent more time outdoors or at the library and escaped his blind rages.

Not every father is ideal for the position of parenting so only a handful of lucky people out there had good, healthy relationships with their mothers and fathers. At the very least some of us as children were blessed to have a good role model either in the form of an uncle, a teacher or a close family friend.

I myself spent a good part of my childhood and puberty hiding in fear from my father who was not only diagnosed with schizophrenia but truly possessed by demonic entities. I’d love to understand what on earth I must have done in a previous incarnation to deserve such a frightening childhood but I know it shaped my character and made me a more sensitive child more empathetic than my peers.

I remember also being bullied by children my own age from five years old to age 16. At times I’d defend myself and the children would eventually learn to steer clear of me if I decided to defend myself properly. Most of the time I didn’t do anything to defend myself and I’d just cry quietly to myself at home. If my mother found out I had been bullied she usually didn’t have sympathy for me at all; in fact she genuinely became angry at me and wanted to know how I could let any of these peers take advantage of me or beat me up.

I learned to avoid and isolate myself from children in my school and at times I’d fight back when enough was enough and I had had my fill. I certainly didn’t mind fighting back and I at times learned how to adequately defend myself from my father’s tantrums and misdirected anger.

I never celebrate Father’s Day here on my Facebook wall but I know it’s a special day for at least a few blessed people out there in social media who knew what it felt like to be deeply loved unconditionally and respected by their fathers.

I leave this here on my wall not to garner sympathy but to help others understand that we don’t all celebrate this Holiday. Some of us don’t to this day understand why we ended up with the parents we had. I know a psychic reader I hired last year acknowledged to me what I had already known. My father was indeed a Channel for Spirits…all Spirits even Malevolent Spirits. He couldn’t control what he received so the doctor’s misdiagnosed his clairvoyance and prescribed him with pills and other medications that no doubt made his visions that much worse and skewed his reality further.

My parents were VESSELS …they were important in that they brought me here. I’m alive and I myself am clairvoyant and clairsentient and clairaudient. I know how to ground my own energies and I’ve never allowed any entity to ” take over the steering wheel ”

I can filter what it is I wish to receive and I function well on my own independently . I truly do not desire nor crave anyone else to “compliment” or “complete” me. I’ve had so many things taken from me but I’ve endured it and I’m content. I would never refuse genuine help if it were offered up to me but I learned the hard way that help is rarely offered unless there are “strings” attached.

My upbringing made me more sensitive and strong. I learned not to expect too much from anyone and I learned as I got into adulthood that people you date can abandon you when you need them the most especially if you let your guard down and bared your true feelings to them.

Anyone can disappoint you at anytime. The key to being truly happy is self reliance, self respect and unconditional self love. You must be there for yourself and learn to hold your own hand during the darkness.

By the way I do not give readings to anyone.  I sometimes might give my clients advice and pick up information they may need to hear from their Spirit Guides or “higher power “; but I don’t want to “probe” anyone I don’t know personally and interfere in their journey.

My psychic abilities have lead me to understand that I should place complete faith in myself first because of my own bodily signals or slight panic attacks.  I learned from firsthand experience that if I do not honor my own intuition I will be misled or reap the consequences of being completely taken advantage of by people who don’t have my best interests in mind.

I have experienced what it feels like numerous times not to be listened to and not to be taken seriously especially by people who were in a position to guide me or offer me help.

I suggest that if any of you reading my blog get a nagging gut feeling within you that some path isn’t right for you that you honor yourself first and pay close attention to your body’s signals.  If you feel nauseous or sweaty or truly ill before a decision you’ve made you may need to change your intended course of action and back away and try another alternative plan.

No one will be able to predict an outcome for you because we always have free will and the ability to change our minds frequently.  In honor of Father’s Day seek out answers within you more often.  Never question your own intuition and never put all your faith in one entity or one set way of doing something.

In honor of Father’s day learn to create sacred space within yourself first. When you wake up each day keep track of your thoughts.  Are you sending comforting thoughts to yourself and your physical body or are you silently criticising yourself ?

You alone carry all the answers within you and you alone intuitively understand how and where to begin the process and long journey of self healing and renewal.

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Chicago Tantra Massage is for Anyone ready for a healing Journey

I feel the need to write today mostly because I am always spot on correct when I read an email from a new potential client and know deep down they simply wanted to VENT to me but they honestly weren’t Emotionally prepared to begin a tantra ceremony in real life.

In all fairness tantra isn’t for everyone and everyone is motivated by different reasons to try a session whether it’s strictly curiosity, too much personal stress in their life or they love healing connection.

Half the people that reach out to me are high achievers who know what they want and how to get it. They love their partners, love their career and they want a session as a treat because they feel they deserve it.

Other people are involved in reiki, yoga, music and creative pursuits so they crave chakra balancing, and breath coaching along with the sensual touch.

I also receive requests from single mothers, caregivers, independent business owners and men whose wives are chronically ill.  These people are under a lot of stress and so they contract my services as a means of letting go and treating themselves.

Other people want and deeply desire tantra but they don’t fully understand what tantra is. They send me “novels” instead of a brief emails which to me is a “red flag” because it’s almost as if they are trying too hard to convince themselves and me that they are ready to jump in without having spoken to me on the phone or meeting me in person!

I’m not a guru and I truly don’t feel like conning anyone into the false idea that one or even several tantra sessions will shift you from previous abuse into a new paradigm of being victorious.

On the contrary I do believe if you personally have been molested or victimized or similarly violated emotionally and or sexually you need to visit a real counselor like a licensed psychiatrist or talk therapist first.

Sexual molestation is a very harmful blow to your psyche and I certainly don’t wish to trigger anyone who has been molested and hasn’t done some inner healing work first.

I know while reading these emails who is emotionally able to receive kundalini Shakti and who is lying to themselves by the way they express themselves through the written word. I also know that most sexual molestation victims typically can’t reach out on the phone to even talk to me in real time because they may not be ready to start the healing process just yet.

I do receive many earnest emails from new clients who won’t ever call me and that to me speaks volumes because if they can’t use their own throat chakra to express their goals and desires to me or anyone then their personal power is being blocked and it isn’t part of their truth to want a real shift or change to occur.

When I read emails I’m not expecting anyone to really follow through until I hear it in their voice first.  I can always tell who is ready to relax and be healed and who is just too nervous and kidding themselves .

I myself have had a few disappointments with psychic readers who just weren’t tapping into my consciousness. These readers might be great with other people who aren’t as self aware as I am but I do know what it’s like to seek real help and realize no one has the ability to fix me…I have to fix myself.

One tantra session with me will clear away some cobwebs of debris and make you feel more hopeful, motivated and refreshed; but then you yourself are responsible every day afterwards to pursue your own self healing journey, whether it’s counseling, journaling, self reiki, better diet, walks in nature or positive visualization.

Whenever anyone was traumatized I always suggest we meet eachother for coffee first and get together so I can take notes and ascertain what is the very best session I can offer to someone I don’t personally know. I will charge a small fee however because I’m a professional and I’d like to be honored for my time. The fee is nominal and is used as a deposit towards reiki, chakra balancing or tantra for a future session.

I do not feel it’s fair of anyone to expect me to give a free psychic healing or free consultation through email alone or a long phone conversation because it means the new client is feeling me out.  I can’t convince anyone that the time is right for a tantra ceremony or tantra massage.  I’m not dissuading anyone from plunging ahead but when I receive too much information in my first email from a complete stranger and no phone call after I respond to them then I know I’m being lied to.

Only a handful of people who have tried tantra before know that every teacher or tantra yogi presents their sessions individually and if the teacher is any good he or she will use their intuition along with a couple of goals from their new student as a guide.

If I suggest a meet and greet over coffee it’s because I do want to get to know you as a friend so that when we have our first tantra session you won’t be worried or self conscious or scared.

When I meet new guests for coffee it’s because I feel that person needs a nudge and because I feel that individual needs to vent and share more of their story with me.  I only charge $50 for our initial consultation fee and it’s used as a deposit towards any session you choose.

I also encourage everyone to read my website at least once so that they can ask me educated questions rather ask me what my fees are. My fees are determined by the session you choose.  I have many choices on my website from cuddle therapy to reiki to advanced tantra, to Goddess Worship.  I have basic sensual massage all the way up to a full day of spa tantra retreats for people who have the time and the budget.

My ideal candidate is anyone emotionally mature to enjoy a journey of chakra balancing, therapeutic bodywork, reiki, aromatherapy and kundalini tantra massage.  I do not solicit anyone who isn’t psychically ready because that’s a waste of time for everyone involved. I’m not a free, unpaid, advisor.  I am not obligated to continue emailing anyone who can’t simply pick up the phone and find ten minutes out of their day to talk to me like a mature adult.  I do not need to read your life’s history in order to give you a good healing.  I do understand it takes a lot of trust to begin any alternative healing journey and that’s why I recommend meeting me for a paid consultation if you have any doubt prior to meeting me.

I needed to write this article today because I do get frustrated and disappointed when new guests make prejudgments about my skillset or my motivations.  My motivation is to work with new clients who will benefit from my healing touch and who will appreciate and enjoy my services.  I do this work because I’m good at moving energy and I love healing through touch.  I do not however like being used as a free psychotherapist.  I do not need to read through lengthy emails from people who are fooling themselves and trying to fool me.  I do offer paid talk therapy and paid coffee consultations for anyone that has even a shred of doubt.

I hope this article helps you understand that tantra is just one of many healing paths to help you achieve self awareness and balance; but you yourself have to continue following your own path of magic and self love.

If you know you are ready for one of my tantra massage ceremonies here in Chicago please call me today at 312 339 7707.  If you want to meet me for coffee this week in Chicago or nearby suburbs I will work around your schedule and have a real time honest discussion with you so you can make an educated choice and give you advice.

My main website is http://www.tantrabutterfly.com so spend an hour reading it prior to calling me in person.  If you want to break the ice by sending me a brief email you can use my primary contact form or either of these email addresses:

Butterflyshadows@aol.com

Tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com

Introduce yourself briefly using your real name so I know you are sincere and so I know you are a legitimate new student of tantra.

You do not need to send me your life story; in fact I discourage you from divulging too much information because part of our tantra ceremony will include us meeting together and chatting briefly before our tantra massage even begins in real time.  We will have ample time to talk about anything you wish once we have our first tantra session together.

Do not be worried if you do not have prior experience in energy work. You are contacting me because you are either curious about what tantra truly is or you’ve had tantra massage and you absolutely love it so you wish to repeat your positive experience with me as your guide.

I’d be delighted and excited to meet you here in Chicago which includes the suburbs of Schaumburg, O’hare, Oakbrook, Elk grove Village, Rosemont and the Magnificent Mile near River North.  I will travel anywhere to you within the city of Chicago or neighboring suburbs.

When you call me directly let me know who you are and briefly introduce yourself to me .  Everything we decide to do will be planned based on your time constraints, budget and personal goals.  FB_IMG_1557631910360

Establishing boundaries 🦚 between Client and Healer

IMG_20190417_172108_482When planning a session ahead of time plan on keeping your appointment as scheduled. If you repeatedly make a habit of showing up super early or late then consistently DEMAND that your practitioner accept your CHRONIC last minute changes you may find yourself without a healer.

This morning one of my longterm clients who suffers from self entitlement or what people call NARCISSISTIC tendencies showed up super early.

In a commanding and dominant voice he asked if I could see him at his now very early time. I was firm and polite and said he had arranged our time and that is the time we will stick with. He chose to punish me by canceling our session after I prepared everything and woke up early.

I fired him. He sent me numerous apologies via text. Again notice he doesn’t understand boundaries. He refuses to believe I won’t be issuing him anymore chances. He’s treated me this way before and he doesn’t respect other people so he’s been fired permanently.

He sent more messages but I’ll be blocking his number permanently.

When you commit to a time don’t continuously change the time REPEATEDLY then get angry at your healer for not complying. Everyone deserves to be honored and respected.

I’m all about flexibility and malleability but if a client is firm about a time and date then CONSISTENTLY makes a habit about showing up half an hour or 45 minutes early ALL THE TIME then that’s just irritating and annoying not to mention dishonoring because the only time table they seem to respect is their own.

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Here’s to a bright new 2019 ♡

Health goals

Hello everyone who happened to find my blog either out of happenstance or because you followed the link directly from my main website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com!

If you aren’t familiar with astrology I myself always loved reading up on both Eastern and Western astrology ever since I was a teenager and my enthusiasm for Occult studies, Astrology and the Paranormal never wanes instead just like the waxing of the new Moon my curiosity always grows.

During our new moon last week I made sure I focused on some new goals for myself so I lit a very special manifestation candle because candle magick is especially powerful and magically infused as the moon gains in strength.

I trimmed my wavy hair just a bit at the ends to promote healthier growth and I did some self marketing to increase the potential for new clients discovering my offerings online. I also realized that my physical health should be examined more closely. I tend to love sweets especially good chocolate so I did a bit of personal research and read up on the proper way that fruits should be consumed for optimal health and that fruit consumption should be strictly on an empty stomach!

I read up on how fruits are better absorbed when you eat them raw and always before any other food group never after. In other words fruit should be eaten as a dessert rather fruits should be eaten early in the day prior to any other meals you intend to consume. I’ve naturally followed this new diet regime and I must say not only does my stomach feel better but my skin seems to glow more!

Ginger, turmeric and carrot juice

I have also made more of an effort to drink more raw vegetables so it’s much easier to make sure my new health goals are met painlessly and with very little effect on my part.

Tonight and tomorrow our super moon will be in Virgo which translated into Layman’s terms simply means we’ll be shedding layers and unhealthy, unrealistic expectations of what we should be and just be easier on ourselves.

Part of this super moon energy will be our willingness to part ways with toxix situations and or people interfering in our progress to achieve self awareness and contentment. We will stop comparing ourselves to others and become more self accepting rather than materialistic.

This year is also the year of the Boar in Chinese astrology which to me is wonderful news because I was born during the year of the Goat and Boar, Goat and Rabbit make up a triad of creative, peace loving, and emotionally based signs that go very well together! I am prepared to see beautiful changes unfold for 2019 and I hope all of you reading this message will be more mindful of creating small, positive changes in your life rather than focusing on what you don’t have.

If you focus on tiny projects that you know you can potentially accomplish then the impossible goals that no longer serve you won’t seem that essential to your personal happiness.

Goddess Diana
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I am always available for sponsorships to your city or you can schedule sacred time for yourself here in Chicago while I’m still here.