Archive for December, 2014

It is a beautiful Christmas and DO you Love yourself completely?

Funny I have this odd habit of reading poetry where ever I can find it. I can find poetry scribbled on art work at galleries; I can find poetry in the bathroom stalls written in night clubs and I find the saddest poetry on craigslist.com If I search for it. I read a sad little message today. Someone wrote the following… ” Bah humbug…I can’t wait for this day to be over…christmas without you ….”
Wow! I mean right now I am “dating” anyone nor am I in love with anyone or craving anyone I am just in “travel mode” which means I have the traveling jones and I am just grateful I am avoiding winter and the cold that comes with.
Being here in the now is where it truly is at. I am in the NOW today and I am in the NOW on New Year’s Eve and Yes I do have regrets and I do wish I could travel in this huge time machine and avoid making tragic mistakes I made when I was younger but I never regret spending holidays in serenity whether I am with people or by myself enjoying the company of my pets.
I guess I am lucky because I don’t have to have someone special in my life to feel complete although having a someone special is always going to be even more fun I just don’t understand why anyone would wish the day away if their loved one is gone for the holidays or they are in between relationships.
I am in a relationship with myself. As trite as that sounds I can find so many wonderful things to do like walk around the french Quarter and eat out with my dog just relaxing, taking photos of flowers and having random conversations with people I meet.

Tantra is about the NOW. Are you having a Good relationship with yourself NOW? I know some people are even afraid of going to a good play or movie all by themselves. Maybe they feel there is some stigma attached to be completely alone but it’s when you are alone that you are in the NOW. Consciously have that ongoing relationship with yourself. Are you only happy with a partner? Are you only happy in large gatherings where you know you will be seen?

I tend to be happiest when I have time to myself but SURROUNDED by people so if I wish to interact and be SOCIAL the option is there but if I wish to hide away and retreat and just take some steps away that option is there.

I love being alone. I only hope that if anyone reading this today is alone for Christmas they are finding ways to make this day special. What is so bad about being alone? Just place both hands around your heart center and send your heart a sacred smile. It’s okay to cry if you have to. Have a good cry if there is some trigger to this Holiday that makes you wonder about a lost love. Have that cry and get it out of your system… Hold onto your heart as you cry and send only unconditional love to that child inside of you that is misunderstood or ignored or treated unfairly.

You have the whole day to love yourself. You have the whole day to lick your wounds or create or destroy or let go of anything or anyone in your life that no longer brings you the joy and caring you deserve. Time to get rid of old habits or people that don’t appreciate you. We have gifts…appreciate any gift you have that consoles you whether it is a fondness for painting or literature or sports. Delve into anything that makes you feel comforted today. Today it’s not about how many lovers you have or how many friends invited you to parties. Today is about self awareness, self healing and self preservation. You can enjoy this day and be grateful that you are still on this journey to learn and grow and experience new arenas.

If today brought you pain be grateful because we learn from pain. If you ended up missing someone special then try and figure out what that person did for you that made you feel so loved. Can you send that same unconditional love to yourself without guilt?

Merry X-mas everyone! May you continue to heal any parts of yourself and accept your flaws without any embarrassment. flower etching

Tantra in New Orleans an opportunity to Re open new doors and explore

Tantra does not appeal to everyone. Some states are more open to trying this experience because they were conditioned differently and I believe everyone should try tantra yoga at least ONCE in their lifetime. I know there is always going to be fear associated with tantra yoga. Maybe you had one or two or three bad experiences with other people but did you ever stop to think your body might not have been able to handle the intense energies?

Before you decide to try a tantra healing ceremony you need to be honest with yourself. Do you have goals that you trying to establish for yourself? Do you want to pleasure your partner differently? Hold on a second there! If you honestly do not know the kegel muscle exercises and the breathing techniques that might halt your progress.

Let’s slow down for a minute. What if you only goal is simply to be authentically YOU? What if you decide YOU deserve to lay back, breathe, be in the moment and SURRENDER? How can you be able to give a tantra yoni healing to your partner if you yourself are too frightened of being the STAR in your own GALAXY?

YOU ARE A STAR AND YOU DESERVE TO SHINE!!! I always suggest people see me for my beginner’s tantra ceremony. Be honest with me and be honest with yourself! Are you on medication? Medication won’t get in the way of your enjoyment nor will it affect your ability to perceive your own energies. Medication might affect your circulation and blood flow so you might receive different results but you can still empower yourself and be more self aware and self confident when you see first hand what tantra yoga feels like running rampant in your body.

Some people get cold feet. They think this might ideally be something that will open closed doors for them. They feel tantra yoga is a gateway to bliss that will unlock some secret door. Here is the secret. You have all the keys to unlocking the door already even if you never engage in a tantra healing ceremony. When the time is right you will know. If your body is shut down however you can still receive SOME benefit from tantra but you might be more patient with yourself and set up mini sessions until you gain enough confidence to practice tantra with your partner.

The goal of tantra is NOT be a more masterful lover but the REAL goal is to enhance your abilities to perceive what energy is. We have stored energy all the time waiting to be explored. We want to learn techniques that will teach us how to trust in our abilities to be more sensate to energy.

We all experience road blocks. If everything were good all the time we might not explore other skills we have. We might not question our abilities. My ultimate goal is to of course enhance your ability to last longer in a sustained state of bliss and TO HELP YOU HEAL FROM THE INSIDE OUT!!!!

We all have an inner core. We were all born with special gifts. Tantra yoga is a way for you to travel inwards and expand your consciousness. Tantra is a weaving of energy and your interaction with other people. You can numb yourself out only for so long before your body starts to feel real, raw, physical pain. Day in and day out we have goals and the body endures only so much stress before you get tired and run down.

When you get judgmental, jaded and run down run don’t walk to your nearest tantra healer. The heart shuts down when it is not honored. If you feel yourself worrying constantly and wondering if you are ever going to achieve your goals that is the perfect time for a bit of reiki energy work and or some tantra work.

What people do not understand is that TANTRA YOGA and Tantra massage are valid modalities to charge up your energy. We are energetic beings having a RAW PHYSICAL experience on the EARTH plane. We need love , we need nurturing we need cuddling. Use your own raw, sexual power to heal all the chakras in your body! Tantra sexual energy is the most raw but simple act of self love and when you learn to connect your sexual power centers with all your chakras you find yourself becoming more open but more intuitive.

Compassion is something that we need to give ourselves daily. If you see yourself growing impatient with your friends or colleagues over the phone or in simple conversation that indicates to me that you have grown impatient with your own needs. When you feel deep compassion for yourself it shows in the way you communicate and in your touch.

I hope to see you in New Orleans, Louisiana. I am here for the winter season and I hope to be one of tantra guides on your journey no matter how short or how long.
It’s NOT the destination or how quickly you get there it’s about continuity, humility and compassion no matter where you are spiritually, physically and emotionally โ™กโคblue door in uptown