Dear Audience I posted a brief essay about not mixing and matching too many other services when it comes to exploring tantra massage with your clients. These are my opinions and it does not mean I am RIGHT but this is what is right for me so I feel good about myself at the end of the day. I turned down quite a few people today because I never felt any kind of personal energy connection with anyone who called me all day long. I certainly do not like to turn away work but if I feel someone is misconstruing the work I do for BDSM or fetish play I really do not want to offer any sort of bait and switch. There are many people in my field who do not mind using the new term Dark Tantra. They might have a true excitement mixing elements of role play or BDSM during their sessions because they personally enjoy a bit of domination or kink or role play in their own sexual encounters. I can’t really stretch myself too thin these days. I focus on what I know best which is reiki, aromatherapy, whole leaf sage burning rituals and therapeutic touch. I only know what I love best and I would prefer to share myself authentically while creating sacred space. I don’t know if I can handle people anymore who expect me to “entertain” or tittilate them for an hour or so without all the true essences of real energy work. Here is what I wrote just a bit ago. I value everyone’s work and I am sure for as long as a healer or sex worker is sharing themselves it works for the higher good of others.
Tantra is not BDSM. Clearly people are misconstruing what the term Goddess means. I like to advertise on adult websites because at times I will attract the most heart conscious male. There are many people out there however who are incorporating role playing and light domination into their tantra practice and using the term DARK TANTRA to entice men into their tantra practice.
I am not one of those tantra practitioners that wishes to learn role play nor do I have any interest in commanding anyone into any sort of dark fetish play. I do not mind a bit of fantasy for as long as we are not in a traditional tantra setting but that would be a fantasy session and not a tantra healing. You either wish to take your practice seriously or you are going to confuse people into thinking there is a sub category of tantra yoga. There is no such thing as Dark tantra. You either decide you wish to try a true authentic tantra healing for your own healing purposes or you decide to hire a BDSM professional to explore your need for fetish and role play. I do not mind light spanking and tickling during a sensual massage experience but since my main focus these days is the exploration of the chakra bodies and incorporation of sexual energy to heal your body I have no true desire to spread myself too thin and please everyone.
I know there are some tantra goddesses who offer Dark tantra and they charge a bit more money for these sessions and use bondage as part of the fantasy twist but it should not be offered as Dark tantra in fact kindly leave out the word Tantra here because tantra is the weaving of sacred energy. True tantra does not involve “toys” or pain or fetish. True tantra is the purest form of white kundalini yoga and a true tantra yogi will teach you how to retain and recycle your sexual energy so that you can re use it for creative purposes. Kundalini yoga massage involves the practice of engaging your 6 senses and using your entire body as a sensual playground but for increasing your sexual stamina with your partner and opening up your body’s awareness for pleasure to take place and healing to begin. If you suffer from chronic pain for instance you can use different forms of energy work to alleviate your pain to some extent and you might be highly pleased to know that Tantra yoga massage is a very valid way to heal emotional trauma, PTSD, chemical imbalances and phobias. All our traumas are stored in our body as cellular memories. Cranial Sacral massage, polarity, Usui reiki, lomi lomi massage and tantra yoga massage all have key elements that help you unlock these stored memories and they help you slowly release the trauma safely if you are using these modalities in small doses or increments. If you are unsure about the validity of tantra yoga you might wish to try a 90 minute session for yourself with a teacher you trust or a good friend who already studied tantra yoga. Tantra massage helps relieve stress, body aches, emotional blocks and headaches. Western science and Eastern science combined together with nutritional awareness and exercises all work together. I don’t like to employ bondage or role play during my tantra ceremonies. This is not me. I prefer to work with men and women who seek valid change in their life. I feel that panic attacks can be cured through a good support system and through yoga. Initially new people might be very challenged when they first begin learning tantra because it involves proper breathing techniques and you might not know how to breathe properly and fully into your diaphragm but with practice you can learn how to enjoy your sensual pleasure zones and how to breath properly while you are experiencing heightened peaks of pleasure. The whole purpose of committing to and engaging in a sensual journey of awakening is to get you to a point of complete bliss and empowerment so why would you even want someone to confine you in rope or blindfold you? I am not condemning BDSM I am saying leave BDSM out of your tantra ceremony if that is something you wish to explore but don’t mesh the practice of true energy work with any form of fetish because fetish and role play doesn’t really have anything to do with breathing or chakra healing. They are two completely different arenas of play. One creates fear and tantra massage creates opportunities for real emotional support and growth…