I wanted to share this with everyone here today! Sadly the work I do is not always revered or regarded with respect by a majority of people who reside here in the United States or other countries for that matter.
Just two days ago I was victimized on Craigslist because I responded to an ad from a man seeking a “gal friday” in exchange for reduced or no rent and a potential to earn extra money on the side.
I was toying with the idea of spending a month in Miami beach soon and I was hoping to find a nice live in situation where I could work and trade my skills which includes writing and cooking for a place to live.
I innocently responded using my email address firstname.lastname@example.org and I asked how I could be of use to this man so I could share a space in exchange for work. This man without even responding to my email somehow linked me to my tantra website and started sending me text messages to my cell phone accusing me of being an “unwelcome pet” and he was going to monitor my account and my IP address as a violation of conduct.
So why am I the victim of harassment? Why did he decide that I am unworthy and I am a horrible human being because I teach tantra yoga and because I work with sacred sensuality? Am I committing a crime for wanting to help people and restore balance in someone’s life? Am I a horrible human being because I wanted to offer my skills or my ability to cook and clean and organize someone’s office space?
Instead of people judging first I wonder why people can’t be more civilized and humane and simply call directly on the phone rather than project their fear and their previous bad experiences or “wrongs” onto others. I feel this man had the need to misjudge and victimize me and report my account because he was taken advantage of by someone from his past and he felt the need to judge me and lash out on me because he sent me three angry text messages and said my account was going to be reported and monitored simply because I wanted to have reduced rent and respond to his ad using my real email address.
We have such a long long way to go before sex workers and healers are considered as equal as any other professional in this country. I don’t feel ashamed of who I am or what I represent I just wonder why there is so much ignorance and anger sent towards people in my field.
There seems to be so much misdirected angst and anger and so much healing that needs to be done on our inner psyche.
Why should we project a sense of anger or unworthiness unto anyone without first getting to know that person first? Shouldn’t we be judged by our actions and our conduct first?