Archive for February, 2015

Tantra is cooperation and flexibility ♡❤♡

Tantra is not a rigid arena — Tantra is a playful seduction of letting yourself go without any self judgments and without any expectations. You say you want to become Tantric? Do you always have to have YOUR way or can YOU be more flexible and positive? Can you change your plans at the drop of a hat or are you always Wanting to control the people in your life?

The more we study and practice tantra yoga the more we realize it’s not about what we can get but what we can mutually learn from each other. I approach each tantra session as a mutual arena and opportunity for play. It is not about ME and it’s not about YOU– it’s about US.
We exchange energies therefore we learn what buttons to push or not to push. You have a chance to learn more about your body and how your body reacts to mutual healing and breathing.

We might not be able to breathe in and out at the same pace but once we calm our minds and slowly match our energies we can focus on how similar we are and we become ONE unit and one main source of SHARED energy. IN time the breathing practice will become so organic and natural to you that you won’t be thinking about having to breathe while receiving and giving touch; you will feel this natural desire to take in a breath of air every time you sense a reaction in your body.

I like to think of tantra yoga and tantra massage as a pure transference of energy and there is no need for control and there is no right or wrong way to touch because we make the rules as we share and participate together. I want you to give me feedback because I am NOT you but I deeply desire to get to know you as we share sacred space.

When you think upon the idea of sacred space truly there is no such law that states that sacred space MUST be in one’s home or sacred temple. I can make any space sacred with my intentions, focus and positive affirmations. We together Co Create sacred space with the intentions of combining our energies, our chakras and our hearts to create shared harmony and unconditional love.

You can spend time at your friend’s home and create Sacred Space simply by being filled with Gratitude. The act of being deeply grateful leads to openness and abundance because you are acknowledging the blessings of what you already have therefore you are attracting more love to you based on your open spirit.

No matter where you are and no matter what hotel you are in even when you travel on a plane you are in solely responsible for your outlook and your open heart. You can practice gratitude and self healing affirmations when you are in line at the bank!

Change your outlook on what a Tantra Ceremony must be or SHOULD BE because there is no wrong time to cherish yourself and honor your boundaries. Chant your first and middle name aloud and empower yourself in a mantra of a state of positive being. Shout out all your positive traits and why others should honor you and find you Sacred. We all have some wonderful qualities and we can take time out each day to call upon our higher power and acknowledge ourselves for our gifts. If we can recognize ourselves as being all powerful and capable of positive changes then we begin to really believe we can have anything we wish because we do deserve it!

Sacred Space is you. Sacred Space is any environment you experience and any locale you trespass. The magic is within you not the Temple Space itself. Be kind to yourself and be kind to your own Temple –your own physical body does so much for you already and be grateful for what you already have because we only have the present to enjoy!

Goddess Diana
http://www.tantrabutterfly.com
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Happy Valentine’s Day Lovers ❤♡

This week is Mardis Gras here in New Orleans, Louisiana but it is also Valentine’s Day weekend so don’t forget to tell your partner how much you appreciate them! Do something out of the ordinary. Try a new mini adventure together — something that is decadent and completely out of the box.
Surprise your lover with something they may have been dreaming about but never dared to try like a vacation someplace off the beaten path or scuba lessons or a Tantra Massage Session!

New experiences help build trust and help you explore sides of each other that you never knew existed. Sometimes we take advantage of the one we love. We dress the same, we don’t take chances or we tend to go to the same restaurants we know because it becomes a part of the routine and makes you feel more comfortable.

Do something bizarre together! Tantra Massage for couples is a four handed massage opportunity that lets you explore each other’s sexual ecstasy in a supportive and safe zone. Tune into each other and slow down. Sometimes we think we know everything there is to know about our significant other but when you schedule a couples tantra massage you find out more about tenderness and vulnerability.

During a couples session I take my time to teach you basic breathing exercises while you are assisting me with a four handed tantra spa massage. There is a pelvic heart connection that takes place and your partner will be the recipient of touch with intentions of awakening latent sexual energies.

During Mardis Gras weekend participate in each other and slow down and listen to your partner’s unique biorhythms and cadence. This is a romantic weekend full of strange sounds, colorful costumes and the mystique and romance of a very feminine and alluring city that supports the Divine Feminine

Goddess Diana
Butterfly Muse
http://www.tantrabutterfly.comsoft pink marilyn monroe

Simple ways to bring out the best in your lover ♥ or Tantra Partner ♡

Here are some tips when it comes to establishing trust and clear communication between you and your lover or tantra partner. Whether you choose to address your loving partner or you decide to contact a tantra surrogate you need to realize all humans thrive with compliments, gentle and persuasive tone of voice and your ability to sound loving and non threatening.

While some people may find it convenient to “text” their partner or future healer I find it socially unacceptable and not as respectful or loving as a simple direct phone call.
Texts have a lot to be desired and soothing sounds like your caring voice is missing when you shoot a quick text. There is a lack of feeling and a lack of etiquette if you send a text as a convenience. I personally find it less compelling than a direct phone call and may respond with a lack of sensitivity since text messages are meaningless. I don’t feel respected for the work I do when someone can’t set aside a simple five minutes to call me directly and let me know they have a strong interest and desire to learn tantra.

If you only have a quick five minutes in your time frame use those five minutes and make direct and loving contact with your partner to let them know how important they are and that when you have more free time you would like to get together or at least chat. When you give people choices you show them you care and you respect and value their time. Shooting a quick text and saying I miss you is a lot less meaningful than simply ringing up someone directly and whispering I MISS YOU!

We now think it is polite to send text messages to tantra practitioners but it’s the reverse of polite it’s showing your tantra healer that you are so busy you aren’t that serious about really tuning into their energy and you lack a heart connection and lack the desire for intimacy. The quickest way to turn off your tantra healer is by sending then a text message in the middle of the night and asking them if they are available. Are you that lazy that dialing a number is out of the question? Are you serious about wanting a session because in my eyes my feeling is you are only lukewarm about wanting a healing because you sent a text message and were non committal.

The quickest way to kill intimacy is to nit pick to your partner and tell them everything that is wrong about their hair, their style of dress and the way they look in general. If you want the best to come out of your love relationship find things that make you happy and find out what makes your partner proud. If your partner is very meticulous about color and design emphasize their positive qualities first then you might wish to address their odd habits in the future but NOT during a romantic moment not unless you wish to distance yourself from them.

If you want to bring out the best in your tantra healer again go over their general appearance with loving eyes and simply accept them for who they are. When you can love your tantra partner unconditionally and without any sense of judgement you will be surprised at how they will “shine” for you. If you can make genuine eye contact with your tantra goddess and you can smile with approval in your eyes that brings out the Goddess qualities out that will enhance your shared time together. If on the other hand the first few words that come out of your mouth are words of criticism and your face shows any traces of displeasure that certainly won’t make your partner confident she will simply feel distanced from you and may even not wish to share her true loving nature with you because she can’t feel your heart energy and does not feel safe enough to expose her heart energy with you.

You gain nothing by being harsh or critical to your teacher or your beloved. If you expect to be healed and or taken seriously call your partner directly. Use words that are soothing to the ear and be your most perfect paternal self. Be protective of the Goddess and show her your divine masculine. Show her your patience and your willingness to meet her in the middle when you change plans or change your mind.

When you beam out pure love your goddess will feel safe and honored enough to be childlike and adorable. If you can stare into your Beloved’s eyes and just see her divine essence you will begin to feel this gratifying energy that starts from your heart chakra and connects with her heart chakra. This type of connective synergy is what weaves you closer instead of further apart.

Respect the Goddess for who she is and what she represents in her simplicity and her frailty and you will bring out the Beauty in all women. Marilyn monroe tantra butterfly

Goddess Diana
http://www.tantrabutterfly.com

Be youthful (indefinitely) just engage in a Tantra Ceremony and Rejuvenate!

You saw the title and why would I have any reason to LIE to any of you! What is the Key ingredient we need to survive besides nurturing tenderness and water? Guess… it’s Oxygen!
I can’t help but notice that at the very closure of any of my tantra ceremonies my face is flushed and I am GLOWING as much as my client’s face. Apparently there is something right I am doing!

The key ingredient that makes a Tantra session profound is the act of BREATHING slowly and deeply into your heart while being touched and feeling pleasure. It’s not enough to be simply “aroused”. Anyone can be aroused just by staring at someone you find attractive or being touched in a very sensual and teasing way. The art of having profound waves of full orgasmic Bliss is by learning how to properly breathe the bliss EVERYWHERE simultaneously into your body while unconsciously absorbing some delicious energies.

Energy is more deeply felt when you can hypnotize your body into a state of trance. Trance mind is achieved when you QUIET your mind and fully focus on the weight of your body on your bed and focus on the temperature of your core, the temperature of the air around you and the sounds of musical chords or complete silence. No matter what you do the BREATH brings you back into your BODY and you are in the MOMENT.

Oxygen feeds our sexual energy and feeds our cells. It’s like a face lift when you feel so much joy and breathe so deeply you pulsate with aliveness and decrease years off your face. The act of breathing alleviates stress, disease, panic disorder and aging. Indulging in a Tantra massage is akin to going to a full day at the “Spa” and you will notice your aura is so much lighter and you will become a lot more approachable because your aura and your heart are more “open” to receiving.

You will attract more love to you. You will feel quietly calm and safe and you will feel young and vital.

Enjoy life and be touched!

Goddess Diana
http://www.tantrabutterfly.commarilyn perfume oils

The simple steps that keep you fully present for your Tantra partner ❤

Diana O66 eros magicI am going to make this simple for all of you to digest. Here is the ideal way to be completely in tune with your partner or your teacher.

The easiest thing one can do is get adequate rest. Yes rest and do not drink alcohol or smoke pot before you decide you want to engage with your partner. Don’t cheat yourself and don’t fool yourself into believing that alcoholic beverages or any type of drug will put you in the right frame of mind for relaxation therapy.

Any drug you take places you at the risk of not only “deadening” and numbing out your energy but being “out of it”. You want to be completely awake but calm before you decide to touch your partner or work with your tantra teacher.

Drugs distance us from energy and distance us from being able to really read and interpret body language. We don’t want interference or “distortion” to block us from being able to really be present for our partners so my advice is you stay alert but calm and speak in hushed tones but use clear inflection when communicating with your tantra partner.

There are going to be times where there is complete silence. Don’t be afraid of the silence instead connect with your partner’s breathing patterns and when you place your hands over your partner’s stomach be mindful not to place too much pressure on their body you simply want to “support” their breathing by being very gentle on their inhalation and then using gentle pressure as they exhale.

Be ready for constructive criticism and encourage the input and feedback. Make your partner feel safe enough to engage in complete communication without them fearing you will judge then or be upset. This is your shared session and this is a joint venture for both of you to get to know each other during a state of connection and trance.

Tantra yoga is a gentle balance of energy healing, deep breathing, concentrated touch and intention. Before the session even begins you may decide you wish to state your intentions verbally and then you may wish to engage in eye contact for a full fifteen minute period just so you both feel comfortable with each other and acknowledge each other fully.

Being present is so simple. Blank out your mind while you are in session. Healing means we leave our worries behind. In order to truly heal and create opportunities for shared growth you need to let go of expectations and disappointments. Don’t worry about work …keep your phone shut off and make sure your clock is off. Don’t be concerned if the session runs over the deadline. You want to make sure your partner knows how very important THEY ARE and you don’t want to rush them into relaxation or keep a time clock on.

Time is a valuable commodity and you sharing your time and energy and focus is the most healing transference of love you can exchange.