First of all I do follow a “recipe” and I do not both at the same time. If you over think what may or may not happen during your first tantra session you may not fully understand that there is no thinking involved but there is an awakening of all latent energy and trapped trauma. I find that it’s best to follow a simple process of connection, breathing, mutual touch and open communication.
I encourage everyone for the first time to ask me as many questions as they wish. You can ask me why we are singing together or why we are breathing so deeply. Most people don’t realize that 60% of our “panic” attacks are caused by breathing improperly and breathing too shallow. Shallow breathing translates into muscular pain in your diaphragm and when you connect with me I will make sure to slow down your breathing pace for every touch you receive.
The breathing is the key ingredient and if you start this practice every day it will be a new practice that gradually becomes easier so you will naturally breathe deeply every time you receive a tantra healing or a sports massage. Breathing facilitates complete oxygenation of your body’s cells and when you learn to breathe deeply you will feel warmth and tingling everywhere in your body. I have seen people shake a bit and this is trapped energies that have remained stagnant but during a tantra yoga session your energy is free to roam everywhere and you will literally feel a vibratory “tingle” that will permeate from the tips of your toes through the roof of your mouth!
Don’t over stress about what will or what will not happen. What ever happens is your unique response to your body’s ability to process kundalini energy. Use your sexual energy to regain your sense of grounding. Use your energy to activate all muscles and chakras in your physical and spiritual body by breathing and keeping your mind free of clutter.
Talk therapy can also be a part of our shared time together. It’s only natural and healing for you to release pent up feelings and I encourage beginners to share anything that should crop up as your memories are triggered.