Do not disrespect me or violate my boundaries
Right after I finished eating my delicious sushi meal …I had a very strange urge to go online and Google up my public tantra page TANTRA BUTTERFLY and found this ugly and SLANDEROUS review which of course brought my score of 4.6 back down to 4.4
On Monday against my better judgment I accepted an extremely low almost HUMILIATING discounted price for my tantra massage services by a legally blind and EXTREMELY MANIPULATIVE blind man who is a life coach who actually has a Facebook profile.
After going all the way from Schaumburg in the pouring rain and incurring my own personal expenses to take transportation to him I accepted a fee of $250 for 2 full hours of tantra massage. Please note the price was agreed on for a tantra massage NOT an escort session!
I am not a prostitute nor am I an escort service. I am a trained Reiki Master and Licensed tantra educator from Source School of tantra with 25 years of experience in alternative healing, tantra massage, reiki and deep tissue massage.
During the final 30 minutes of our time together Muhammed Noman asked to go down on me not once but twice! I declined his PROPOSITION, packed up all my belongings and left unceremoniously. At this particular point I felt disgusted, disgraced, disrespected and dishonored.
He was warned that if he attempted to charge back our session or slander me online I would post his actions against me on my online blog and on all forms of my social media here and on my YouTube channel.
I’m warning people in my field not to take him on as a client because he chose to retaliate against me and because he has in some way defiled me online and tried to violate my personal boundaries and safety.
Here is the review he posted of me two days ago on my public business page:
Muhammad Noman Ahmed
2 days ago
My personal experience with Diana was very obnoxious. I am disabled and her behavior towards me was very disrespectful. She is very unfriendly and rude and I would never recommend her services
TONIGHT I decided to include his behavior because I have every right to end a session if my boundaries are violated and my personal safety is threatened.
Please do not think that just because you have a disability you are entitled to a huge discount and that you are entitled to any services you wish to receive even though it is not part of the menu of offerings.
I will not tolerate being violated, slandered and blackmailed especially if I was overly generous and went out of my way to offer a greatly reduced price for my tantra massage services.
There is a VAST difference between what I offer and what an escort service chooses to offer.
I am not comfortable crossing that fine line with any of my clients. If I were a professional escort service I would be changing $600 per hour and not $250 for two full hours at a whopping bargain basement price for a selfish, manipulative, emotionally abusive misogynist like MUHAMMAD NOMAN AHMED.
I actually had a very strong premonition against working with him especially since he wanted to know if I give discounts to people with disabilities. I have no qualms offering a BIT of a discount but he actually received my services for less than half of what I normally charge.
From this point on I will need to be much more DISCERNING and careful about who I work with.
Just because someone has a DISABILITY doesn’t mean they are allowed to disrespect you or violate your work and personal boundaries.
Just because an individual is a professional therapist or life coach it doesn’t mean they are not emotionally unstable, retaliatory and MANIPULATIVE.
I have boundaries and I am allowed to state my boundaries and end a session prematurely or abruptly if I am not being honored and respected.
People in my field are often manipulated, taken advantage of, slandered, belittled and blackmailed if we refuse to offer certain services that violate our personal code of safety and ethics.
I have morals and boundaries just like any other trained business professional and I am allowed to have genuine feelings if I’m being emotionally abused by any of my clients.
I will not tolerate bullies who hire me under the false assumption that my VALUE and WORTH is less than any other human being.
No one has an right to force me to do any sexual act that goes against my freewill.
My body is sacred. It may be that this particular individual MOHAMMED NOMAN AHMED doesn’t feel I have value considering how much time he received from me for less than half my normal price but I see things differently.
I was sent in excess of 20 text messages from this unsavory, unethical man who calls himself a life coach. He was incessant that Monday was ideal for us to meet and that he could only afford $250 for 2 hours.
I personally had to travel all the way from the suburbs, incur my own traveling expenses and visit him in a dangerous neighborhood only to be insulted by him when he requested to EAT ME!
YES he asked me twice for sexually exploitive services for a BARGAIN BASEMENT PRICE.
Muhammed Noman Ahmed is an example of a client I DO NOT WISH TO WORK ON.
I May decide not to accept anyone who requests sliding fees based on this particular negative and exploitive experience.
I had of course missed my last bus for the evening and I was forced to spend $30 of my own money just to get home safely and when I did get home trust me I had a good cry.
I hope that people understand that EMPATHY and COMPASSION and RESPECT should always be extended to any sex worker or sex educator that you encounter.
Please treat us as you would treat any business professional and if you are refused a service and you are told A FIRM NO then don’t be childish by retaliation with fake, unfair, unjust reviews.
Now I still have a lot left to say because I’m not quite over my anger. I have two pets I take care of, no family members, two separate sets of storage fees, a huge monthly phone bill for my private business, ongoing website costs and high weekly rental fees. If you think I will tolerate abusive behavior and bullying I won’t. I have ZERO tolerance for slander especially when I know I issued a genuinely generous discount to anyone who needed a sliding fee discount.
When I contracted to work with Muhammed Noman Ahmed (life coach at 310-536-6289) he claimed he had read my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com in full. If you read my website CAREFULLY you will plainly see I have a full page dedicated to ETIQUETTE. On my ETIQUETTE page you will read that I’m not a professional escort. I am not offering services that you would receive from a paid escort. My fair pricing is not a substitute or POOR MAN’S version of a low budget option for clients who are seeking escort services but simply can’t afford these higher prices. I was BEYOND ANGRY AT this man Muhammed Noman Ahmed for taking advantage of my generous discount then asking me twice towards the end of our session if he could EAT MY PUSSY. Obviously this individual had shown me he regards me as a bargain basement cheap whore for rent because he devalues women in my field or all women in general.
I do not offer escort services. I teach goddess worship, I offer tantra bathing ceremonies, I’m a level 3 reiki master and I’m a licensed tantra educator. I am not for sale. My body is NOT FOR SALE. I AM NOT a human punching bag. My services are available to anyone who genuinely seeks a traditional tantra session or a fully clothed reiki session or cuddle therapy session. This particular individual thought he could get away with lying about what truly transpired during our time together in his small studio apartment on Foster Avenue.
Can you imagine how upset and violated I felt being PROPOSITIONED after I spent half my day traveling to his apartment in the rain, unpacking all my essential oils and incense and working DEEPLY on his major muscle groups? I put everything I spiritually had within me to create a safe, loving, healing vibe to this unsavory, ungrateful, perverse pervert whose only true motivation was to see if he could take full advantage of me based on his disability then solicit me for something I don’t even offer on my website! If this is the way most Muslim men view women in my industry then I need to advise my fellow sex workers to be extremely cautious about who they choose to work on simply for safety reasons. No one likes to be grossly taken advantage of or psychically abused.
I warned him that I would share publicly what he did to me on my social media if he chose to slander me and tonight I am sharing this factual story of what transpired in his home. I of course had missed my last bus to my home and incurred an additional expense late at night just to make it back to my place by midnight. I had a good cry that evening and felt deeply hurt, enraged and disappointed with how I was treated with complete disdain and disrespect. It is NOT OKAY for anyone to treat a sex educator or tantra yoga therapist this way. Every individual has triggers and boundaries and I felt energetically raped that evening by a so called, self proclaimed life coach. I definitely have a strong sense of foreboding before taking on certain clients and in Mohammad’s case I feel regretful that I worked with him despite my strong intuition against seeing him.
I’ve said everything I wish to say here this evening and I decided that tomorrow I’ll be creating a special video about how awful it feels to genuinely give someone your very best and then have that same individual cheapen the healing experience by soliciting illegal sexual favors that you are uncomfortable offering. I also wish to add that when Muhammed Noman Ahmed chose to write a derogatory google review two days ago he not only insinuated I was abusive to people with disabilities but he lied about my normally kind and generous giving nature. If I wish to defend myself based on my moral code and end a session because I no longer feel safe and respected then that is my freewill and choice to make based on someone’s disrespectful and vile actions and behavior. Being legally blind does not excuse anyone for acting disceitfully or being manipulative. If I feel threatened and or dishonored I have every right to leave 20 minutes early especially after I’ve already overextended myself by giving someone an overly GENEROUS discount.
I hope anyone reading this article will digest everything I have written and KEENLY intuit that everyone has boundaries and everyone no matter who they are and no matter what profession they choose is entitled to complete respect as a human being with valid emotions and sensitivities.
Just because you choose to hire a sex worker doesn’t mean you own their soul or their body.