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February 23, 2014 No comments

How do we define our meaning of Goddess? What is a Goddess?

Define Goddess! What does it mean if a man yells out on the street to a gorgeous woman and says GODDESS !! Of course you would take it as a compliment right? I certainly would not mind if one of my clients honored me in a session, smiled at me with a genuine smile and told me he thought I was a goddess!
Goddess has so many meanings to different people though and sometimes a man might wish to hire a tantra professional and expect her to have the true qualities of a Goddess but his definition of goddess might be his personal opinion based on his belief systems and expectations.
For instance does goddess simply mean supernatural beauty in all aspects? Does goddess mean she must be tall, lean, statuesque, white or black, asian, oriental, arabic or harem like in all her aspects?
Does she have to be perfectly mannered or poised? Must she be perfectly manicured and have her hair long, wavy and in a cascade of curls or stick straight?

The more narrowly you define your goddess the more close minded you are becoming and the more close hearted you are to receiving the energy of the GODDESS.

Now why am I capitalizing the word Goddess? If you can’t see the divinity and spiritual beauty of any woman you are shortchanging yourself. You are now giving yourself a strict wish list by which to judge all women and you are missing the point of Goddess worship.

Goddess worship is the honoring of all women despite their physical appearances and attributes. If you are only seeking a physically perfect woman to give you instructions on tantra yoga you are never really going to understand the true meaning of tantra yoga which is the teaching of honor the divine SEED in everyone no matter how short, fat, tall, lean, awkward, clumsy or attractive your partner is.

When you partake of tantra yoga workshops, unless you yourself take your own partner you will be paired up randomly with someone you might not be physically attracted to and this in some way will challenge you to learn about unconditional love as you stare into your partner’s eyes for indefinite amounts of time and breathe together and chant.

Sooner or later you might find yourself in a group situation where you do not choose your partner but does this mean you can’t learn to honor her for certain aspects of her personality that might make you fall in love with her goddess energy? Can you let go of your expectations of what is true beauty and just allow yourself to fall in love with her smile or her laughter or her healing hands?

The term Goddess is used often. Some people confuse the title Goddess as a female dominant. I receive phone calls from men who think I am going to enslave them or gag them or punish them in a BDSM scenario. Yes there may be trouble makers out there on the internet who group me in with Masters and Slaves and Submissives but that is because they are not doing their research. They don’t do the reading on tantra yoga or the meaning of Goddess and how the energy of the goddess is akin to healer or shamaness.

I like to define the word Goddess as a benevolent being who is here, confident, ready and proud enough to show you your higher power. A goddess is like a teacher someone who is not here to judge you but not afraid to let you know what boundaries are and educate you on how you can share your love with your partner by being mindful, fully present and gentle when you speak or touch your lover at home.

If I were to gently correct you and educate you would you be able to step aside of your own ego just so you might learn a gentler way to be loving to your partner at home.
Just because I am a Goddess does not mean I am super human. I make mistakes all the time and sometimes my good intentions are confused for rudeness. I think listening and setting up safe boundaries are essential for any tantra session. If I am faced with prejudice even before our ceremony begins I then do not feel as comfortable or safe to do my part in honoring anyone who is a guest in my home or sacred space.

In Ancient Greece and Rome a Goddess is a Supreme Being who possesses supernatural powers and she can create rain or storms or sunlight. She can turn a man into a stag and she can ride a chariot across the skies. These are all fanciful stories that make up our archetypes and create mythology but a Goddess is a human a frail human that can only try and attempt to heal you if you are open and vulnerable enough to receive her for all her flaws and imperfections and healing abilities.

If you can honor any Goddess no matter what race, religion, creed and color and accept her as your friend, wife, mother and lover then you are ready to receive the Love of the Goddess and better able to heal the important women in your life that matter most to you.

February 21, 2014 No comments

Learning how to Let Go. We can’t “fix” anyone ❤

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I have been a healer for 20 years now and in all these 20 years I still believe I have a lot to learn and can even possibly benefit from going back to college and learning psychology.

My work takes a lot of patience. I have to learn the difference between one of my clients being passive aggressive or simply not having the understanding of reading my cues.

I recently let go of a client who I only now realized suffers from Asperger’s syndrome. I don’t know how to treat Aspberger’s syndrome or how to spell it but I really had difficulty understanding his compulsive behavior and his rigidity. I know he suffered from severe clinical depression and he was diagnosed with depression from a clinical psychologist. What I did not know was he only saw his psychiatrist once in a blue moon so it was not “talk therapy” like a social worker but a twenty minute chat to figure out if the medication dosage was still strong enough and to find out if it was still the correct medicine for his treatment since bodies become tolerant and sometimes the antidepressant will stop working its magic.

What upset me was his admission to me that he was still a hardcore drinker and he paired his meals with a bottle of wine or more even though he was seeing me for tantra healings. I thoroughly enjoyed his company but one evening early this month he called me unannounced out of the blue and told me he was literally a mere 20 minutes away from me so could he stop by for a session.

He ended up being drunk and I saw him for all of three hours when he simply fell asleep on my bed. I did not mind as he had already paid me but usually when people schedule a longer session with me I am to be paid appropriately for my time but what do you do when your client falls asleep on your bed?

I tried maintaining boundaries with him but once we became face book friends he saw when I was online because during days when I am NOT busy I like to post pictures or poetry or write short essays here like journal entries so I can learn from my mistakes. He started sending me private messages not once or twice a day but 30 times a day and then wanted to make me cake and bring it on over to my home without booking a session just drop by here on the weekend. He also wanted another sleep over but I do not really offer sleep overs unless someone understands this is going to be an educational retreat and we are not going to “sleep together” but learn together and share sacred space with teachings. I am flexible I will share my time during the day OR evening but my bed and my space are my sanctuary and I like to have something for myself.

I sent him a long private message delineating my boundaries and explained to him that I have extended myself enough already and offered him deep discounts knowing he needs the attention but we are not “friends” or boyfriend and girlfriend and I don’t private message anyone 30 times a day because I have no desire to connect with anyone so often.

At first he seemed fine with the fact that I established my boundaries but then he got passive aggressive and said he would see me in two weeks even though I explained to him I don’t plan my life that far in advance just in case I wish to travel and enjoy some warmer weather elsewhere.

He then said plans were only tentative and so I let it go had some much needed energy work done on myself and came home only to find my phone was flooded with work from some very positive people visiting Chicago. After a day filled with sessions I opened up my email box only to find that he was commanding me to remove the testimonial he had written me a year ago. I told him he need not worry I will not encroach up his space and his legal name is not being displayed on my site so he should not be concerned. He sent me hate mail indicating that I am hard to figure out and I have the early symptoms of bipolar disorder. I know for a fact I don’t have bipolar disorder but I did recommend he stop mixing his antidepressants with alcohol because it distorts the mind and makes you act impulsively. So there after a full year and a half of giving of my time generously and supporting his progress I realized I may have potentially harmed this person more than helped him as he misread my generosity for “love”. I took him at face value I accepted his behaviors and never judged but my actions gave him the idea that this was a “relationship” not a Healing. I did enjoy his company and his opinions but what I did not understand till now is he has asperger’s syndrome and he lacks the skills necessary to read me or know how to behave based on my cues. I had no intention of ever abandoning him but I was advising him that talk therapy is very crucial to treating depression. I am going to assume that his depression is caused because of his loneliness and his divorce. I don’t believe his divorce was his idea because he told me that every Valentine’s day who ever he is dating he “dumps” and so this week he decided to break all ties with me so he could live out that same scenario.

I can only hope he decides for himself that this is no longer a life he wishes to lead if each time he connects with anyone he must abandon them before they abandon him. He does have anger around him and I am still trying to cleanse my space to let that anger leave my home and not affect me.

Here are the cues that someone has asperger’s syndrome :

Engaging in one-sided, long-winded conversations, without noticing if the listener is listening or trying to change the subject
Displaying unusual nonverbal communication, such as lack of eye contact, few facial expressions, or awkward body postures and gestures
Showing an intense obsession with one or two specific, narrow subjects, such as baseball statistics, train schedules, weather or snakes
Appearing not to understand, empathize with or be sensitive to others’ feelings
Having a hard time “reading” other people or understanding humor
Speaking in a voice that is monotonous, rigid or unusually fast
Moving clumsily, with poor coordination

I ONLY now found this online and it matches most of the aspects of my former client’s personality. I wish I would have understood more fully the nature of his condition so I could have handled his feelings more carefully. I have a lot to learn. I am not a licensed clinical psychologist but I do understand a lot of human nature since I come into contact with many people over the phone and in my tantra yoga practice. I feel upset that his “therapist” is not insisting that this man receive talk therapy 2 or 3 times a week so he can learn social clues and boundaries. I like to withdraw from all contact because I need space to process the energy I receive but something tells me this man would heal if someone could teach him about empathy and reading cues.

When someone lacks empathy they can not place themselves in anyone’s shoes. They can not fully understand why someone has spiritual values or has faith or cries or worries. They don’t feel they think things through. When I worked with this man’s energy I would ask him to pause, breathe and share with me any energetic sensations he might be having. Instead of sharing feelings with me he told me he felt floaty and was at peace. Well that is all fine and good but he never shared rage, or pain, or tingling sensations or hunger pangs. I felt at times that I was working with a cold, emotionless robot but I would not get upset I would just try to understand where he was coming from. I shared with him my out of body experiences and he seemed fascinated with my tales but to him these were just “tales” artful pieces of fiction I shared with him not my real experience as a healer. I believe in the paranormal simply because I have had so many intangible experiences that I either saw, heard or felt spirit move me. I truly felt sorry for this man and I don’t know how some people can go through the functions of leading normal lives but not having anything “move” them to tears or propel them to change their actions and try something different.

This man lead a very rigid, routine life. He would go home at a certain time or participate in “betting” while having a cocktail at a betting place. If he was not betting he would prepare himself a dinner then take photos of his dinner and describe what he had prepared. Another constant in his life was me so he placed me in that same “box” of “things” to do rather than a ceremony to share with sacred other.

Sometimes you just have to let go and I learned some important things this year about patience, understanding and learning how to just let go.

February 2, 2014 No comments

Tantra is the Psychic Narration of full body healing and manifestation ❀✿

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Tantra is the Psychic Narration of full body healing and manifestation ♬♫

January 31, 2014 at 4:48pm

Lately I am seeing an unwelcome trend these days. Everyone seems to want quick and expedient results. They don’t want to wait they want to get to the top of their field in days not years. They want to lose weight in weeks not months. Anyone who truly cares about an ideal understands it is through patience, visualization and self healing that we achieve our goals. We now live in a world where we can microwave almost anything we want. We get bored –we flip on our television set or put on a DVD rather than get dressed, deliberate on a good film and go to the cinema. If we get scared some of us go to the bars to hide from our loneliness.

What tantra teaches us is patience. First we understand that there is a power or source of energy out there that feeds us. If we learn to tap into this source of strength we can then have a stronger sense of self and we no longer simply ourselves as all male or all female we are both the convergence of yin and yang. We embrace our strengths as divine male essence and divine female essences. Here we are vulnerable and fresh and hopefully willing to release our need to control our emotions. We are here not to control or enforce our will on others we are here to share ourselves and quietly acknowledge another person’s strength and weakness as our own.

If you are lucky enough in this lifetime to meet a soul mate or twin flame then you will naturally have this experience where there are no boundaries between you and your Sacred other because you are full of trust and you naturally want to give and share your energy with your beloved so you are free to express yourself without judging yourself –you just naturally pour out love and there is a circular rhythm of giving that forms a bubble of love back and forth. This give and take is a chording or a bond of energy that is plugging your entire chakra system with your beloved. Instead of these chords depleting your source of energy you feel the energy is limitless or without parameters or bounds. It is a complete symbiosis of healing and you are joined as one. You even enter each other’s dream time without even trying and or you might find your phone rings right as you are thinking of your lover. These energy chords become conmingled but instead of you feeling trapped or stifled you welcome the energies and you crave more. Instead of you feeling Psychically drained you are fed and fully alive with awareness and self love by the reflection of your partner’s love for you.

If you are not yet on this journey of twin flame you might know what it means to feel a quieter or more serene rapture which is the sacred act of self love. You have come to rely solely on yourself. You yourself may have had a rougher journey than most. Maybe you grew up without siblings or sound parentage. You might have had to parent yourself and found a couple of strong role models who supported you and offered you guidance. You might have learned the craft of self sufficiency but you might also be over armoring yourself and preventing any future soul mate connections by being so guarded. Being guarded is NOT a bad thing. These shields you created were set up to protect yourself from pain or manipulative behaviors. A closed Chakra is NOT a bad thing but our energy needs to experience both the force of open flow and outpouring of loving energy and the natural stop of self preservation so you can take a healthy time out from too much infusion of other people’s energies bombarding you.

Tantra is the exploration of exploring safe and sane boundaries within yourself and your tantra partner. As you exhale out your tantra partner learns to accept your vibration and inhales your breath taking your energies fully into their heart and blessing your energy with theirs then sending you back that blessing directly into your heart space. You learn to share energy not label it. You experience the heaviness and the lightness of energy that is not your own but you learn to accept it as your own without anger or judgement. No one can steal or “take” your energy from you because we all receive energy from Source –we just have to know how to tap into that free energy from Source and clear our filters properly so we can make better use of the energy that is in abundance all around us.

Having faith in a higher power is the first step in fine tuning your higher Chakra. If you have complete trust that your higher power is there to support, uplift and sustain you then your crown chakra like an antennae will open up more easily. When you have faith in a higher power you are better able to receive the warm energy flow and allow yourself to allow this source to sustain you and know there will be no lack of energy for you to feed freely and no lack of energy for you to share with your partner or people around you. If you feel drained about a situation that is not in your “control” that is the perfect time to shower yourself with this radiant self love or get together with someone you trust and just breathe together. Having a ritual in your life connects you to source. You might find a particular song soothes your soul. You might have a movie that forces you to connect with your more loving, vital nature. Perhaps you just adore being immersed in water especially salty waters. These rituals are part of the Divine Sacred act of making love to your Higher Being.

We were created to be love. We were created to experience our love and vibrate with creativity. If a song compels you to close your eyes and envision yourself fully empowered then you owe that time and blessing for yourself. If you can only feel loved by being nurtured or caressed then go to a spa or seek out a tantra healing so you can free your ability to be touched without shame or anger. I have met people who have never even had a massage in their entire lifetime even though they were involved in jobs which required stamina and strength. They never believed they were deserving of the experience but in order to give of yourself you must know what it feels like to receive touch and kindness.

When you learn to flow with energies and when you learn to just let go and trust you expand your heart consciousness and you reunite with your higher grace. Sacred union is not just the meeting of two twin flames Sacred Union is making love to yourself and feeling your full energies expand and quake all through your central nervous system.

When you see how powerful, bright and full of hope you truly are you might first feel overwhelmed at having met yourself but I can assure you you won’t ever feel along again. Our journeys take us forward to our goals but we always take a few steps backwards because of a bit of self doubt. It can be kind of scary when you realize you are the captain of your own ship ❤

January 31, 2014 No comments

Let tantra heal you this winter season because Baby it’s still cold outside ♬♫

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It’s snowing even harder today —no end in sight! For sure this weather is challenging everyone’s mood today and all this week. Water pipes are bursting and some people are having their water shut off temporarily.
As I was walking my dog and trying to walk sideways to escape the sideways moving snow shuffle an angry driver shouted at me with his window wide open…

HEY LADY WATCH WHERE YOU’RE GOING THAT IS WHAT THE MAIN STREET SIGNS ARE FOR…!!!

oh whatever I was only concentrating on carrying some heavy candles as my huge dog guides us to safety.
For as long as I am not spraining my back or slipping on a banana peel life is good.

People have to be more watchful during this kind of weather because as you cross these slippery and slushy streets some cars might be gliding past and you want have much time to react.

In the meantime now is the perfect season for taking care of you! Are you recuperating from surgery? Well this weather won’t be doing you any favors. Even just subtle movements can stress you or add to injury and you might find yourself re injuring your body if you are not careful. Immediately after surgery you will find yourself “armoring” or guarding your every movement to avoid further stress. You will find yourself experiencing stress or tension headaches or grinding your jaws at night because of this extra stress on your central nervous system. It is now that you should invest in yourself and your path to wellness.

Eat foods that contain as much water as you can handle. Water is vital especially during this colder weather because cold weather can be just as dehydrating and taxing on your system as hot, torturous weather. Pick juices instead of cola products and beef up on your watermelons and pineapples. Warm soup broths will help you feel less sluggish and so will more frequent visits to a body worker.

Lymphatic drainage massage helps you flush out toxins from your body and keeps your immunity strong and prepared for this harsher weather.

How does tantra yoga fit into all of this? Typically all my sessions are focused on five elements. These elements are sound healing, aromatherapy healing, focused intention, proper breathing, and lymphatic drainage. Want to lose a bit of weight this winter? Visit me I can help you move energies through your body and help clear out anything in your lover base chakras that no longer serve you.

All creative people which include singers, graphic artists, poets and actors know that sexual energy helps them focus for longer increments of time. We all have writers block and we all experience that bump in the road if we don’t take enough time out for our own development or healing.

I am sure Jean Harlow had her moments where she needed to travel outside of her normal boundaries.
Escape a bit with me here in Chicago. I will lovingly prepare a session for you that meets your energy vibe whether you need to be amped up or set your mind to a peaceful hum

Photo: It's snowing even harder today ---no end in sight! For sure this weather is challenging everyone's mood today and all this week. Water pipes are bursting and some people are having their water shut off temporarily.
As I walking my dog and trying to walk sideways to escape the sideways moving snow shuffle an angry driver shouted at me with his window wide open...

HEY LADY WATCH WHERE YOU'RE GOING THAT IS WHAT THE MAIN STREET SIGNS ARE FOR...!!!

oh whatever I was only concentrating on carrying some heavy candles as my huge dog guides us to safety.
For as long as I am not spraining my back or slipping on a banana peel life is good.

People have to be more watchful during this kind of weather because as you cross these slippery and slushy streets some cars might be gliding past and you want have much time to react.

In the meantime now is the perfect season for taking care of you! Are you recuperating from surgery? Well this weather won't be doing you any favors. Even just subtle movements can stress you or add to injury and you might find yourself re injuring your body if you are not careful.

Eat foods that contain as much water as you can handle. Water is vital especially during this colder weather because cold weather can be just as dehydrating and taxing on your system as hot, torturous weather. Pick juices instead of cola products and beef up on your watermelons and pineapples. Warm soup broths will help you feel less sluggish and so will more frequent visits to a body worker.

Lymphatic drainage massage helps you flush out toxins from your body and keeps your immunity strong and prepared for this harsher weather.

How does tantra yoga fit into all of this? Typically all my sessions are focused on five elements. These elements are sound healing, aromatherapy healing, focused intention, proper breathing, and lymphatic drainage. Want to lose a bit of weight this winter? Visit me I can help you move energies through your body and help clear out anything in your lover base chakras that no longer serve you.

All creative people which include singers, graphic artists, poets and actors know that sexual energy helps them focus for longer increments of time. We all have writers block and we all experience that bump in the road if we don't take enough time out for our own development or healing.

I am sure Jean Harlow had her moments where she needed to travel outside of her normal boundaries.
Escape a bit with me here in Chicago. I will lovingly prepare a session for you that meets your energy vibe whether you need to be amped up or set your mind to a peaceful hum

December 5, 2013 No comments

Returning to one’s city amidst so many changes HELLO CHICAGO from Goddess Diana !!!

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Well I just returned to my native soil last weekend and it’s just like that old saying…you take yourself with you no matter where you go.

I will be honest I was thrilled to be back but not thrilled to be greeted to such cold last weekend from Atlanta, Georgia. Atlanta, Georgia to me was an experiment and even though I truly loved the warmer climate and the lush plant life it was aggravating for me to figure out a way to maneuver myself around the city without a car and without knowing how to drive. I guess I could have taken driving lessons and honestly I will make that my goal (again) for the year 2014 so the next time I leave Chicago I will feel more “settled” and I won’t fee “trapped”.

Tantra yoga is the study of how to let go of all sense of what you know and let go of your mind so you don’t feel so cloistered. I always have so much to learn. It is so simple for me to relax someone thoroughly who trusts me to their bare energy and I must say there is no greater joy for me to receive than to share my knowledge of tantra massage to couples or give someone their first taste of real medicine work the taste of their own unique energy as it is tapped and set free through Kundalini shakti.

I not only moved out of the city of Chicago for the warmer weather but I wanted to get to know a very special man I had grown very fond of that I had met through face book. We initially met on that venue but only flirted a few times casually but I fell in love with his posts, his spirit and his gorgeous looks. Remember that old saying ….beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Well to me he was the perfect being both in his sensitivities to subtle energies and his raw sexual animal appeal to me. When I showed his picture to some of my clients they thought he looked a bit like a rock star but others thought he looked a bit “touched”. NO matter to me he was everything I wanted to get to know so we spent a full year on the phone together three years while I was living full time in the city of Chicago.

Patrick filled a void in me I knew I had been missing and we spent almost every day on the phone together typically from 1 a.m. until 7 or 8a.m. just creating stories and mythos and I fell in love with his voice, his sense of play and his hopefulness. We had some fights every so often but we seemed to resolve them quickly and it felt so bittersweet and heavenly to get to know this man through our agreements, our shared laughter and his astral visits. I guess you could say he had a remarkable talent for astral travel and to me that is likened to any session I wish to receive during a therapeutic massage and during a private one on one healing with any client of mine who trusts me enough to share their spirit and their energy with me.

I decided to move to Atlanta, Georgia so i could have the chance to not only feel Patrick’s energies on the astral plane but actually have the chance to be with him in real time and in the real moments that make up a real relationship. Sadly though once I lived in Atlanta full time Patrick did seem awkward to me and ashamed that he was not in a greater position of strength in his life. He used to be a very affluent muralist and artist but life circumstances and our shaky economic system put a damper on Patrick’s abilities to take care of himself so he admitted the truth to me about not having enough money sometimes to even put gas in his truck and that interfered greatly with his pride and his ability to even pay me enough visits to keep me company.

I became frustrated with this scenario and as I struggled to market my service in Atlanta, Georgia I also tried to assure Patrick I required more of his free time and attention but somehow when he had the rare chance to work he also needed to reserve what little gas money he had to use it as transportation money to and from his odd and end jobs. Another thing that got in the way was his ailing father who needed Patrick’s assistance almost every single major holiday and each weekend so I felt as if I had moved to Atlanta Georgia for nothing. Patrick was so ashamed of his inability to look good in my eyes that he shut me out a lot more and decided against inviting me to meet his immediate family. To all of you I am sure you are smiling an all knowing smile and thinking Patrick surely must have been married but no Patrick was living a Co dependent existence with his brother who was mentally unwell and his parents who gave Patrick a free house to stay in in exchange of course for Patrick’s care taking abilities.

What does this say about me? It says I am beyond patient because for two full years I went on the hope alone of eventually having Patrick include me more in his life. I had hoped I would gradually be getting much busier in Atlanta but somehow people did not find me online or maybe there was a strong lack of desire for tantra massage in Atlanta. And now that I am back here full time in Chicago I am saddened because it seems I was more welcome as a visiting Tantra Goddess than a full time tantra massage therapist.

Time for a second career I say and time does indeed heal all wounds but I became disgusted with Patrick’s treatment of me in all of this. I am the partner who was waiting or him to make up his mind. In Patrick’s eyes he felt my move was all my idea yet for a full year he said he would love it if I would give Atlanta Georgia a chance and be near him. Patrick initially had promised to include me in his tribal gatherings so I could connect with his friends and feel a true sense of community. What soured the city of Atlanta for me was the disappointment in knowing Patrick had no intentions of ever introducing me to his dearest friends or including me in any sacred ceremonies because he was jealous of me and what I do for a living.

I traveled for two full years spending each holiday abroad and getting to know people from all over the United States just immersing myself in my work and truly enjoying the freedom of travel without relying on anyone else to bring me joy.

I am now regrettably not even friends with Patrick but to be honest with you I have no deep desire to ever meet with him again or hear his voice because he could not honor the work I represent he could only feel insecure and jealous of who I am as a Goddess.

I love to share myself and I love to share my passion. As I am trying to ground my energy here in Chicago I sense this city has changed and people are more fearful and less trusting than I remember them to be. I am contacted quite a bit when people find me online but only a handful of people feel that sense of trust to just plunge in and try a session with me.

Here I am and I have nothing but myself to share. I am open and I am an open vehicle of healing if someone is honest enough with me about doing the work. This work involves mutual sharing of energies and mutual sharing of trust. When you trust someone implicitly you receive more than you bargained for.

I invite you to share a bit of magic with me this December. I have went through a lot of changes get to know one of my soul mate energies and I am fully present to focus my time with anyone here in the city of Chicago who is ready to journey with me and let go of their armoring. You can only hold onto armor for so long and then you simply realize it’s just weighing you down and is hindrance to bliss.

Goddess Diana http://www.tantrabutterfly.com

April 27, 2013 No comments

The journey of Tantra is What YOU yourself Create and Manifest ❤♡

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It is a beautiful day here in Atlanta, Georgia and each day should be spent in reflection and lusciousness even if you do not particularly feel up for it. So the topic for today is Shared Bliss and Tantra Yoga in Atlanta. How can we better prepare ourselves to heal when we decide to set up sacred space or when we finally do decide to indulge in a private and sacred healing with a Tantra Yoga teacher? First of all you must realize you chose this time for your personal healing and you must be completely clear with your intentions and completely selfish.
When you do meet with your Tantra teacher in Atlanta or anywhere else in the world just realize your teacher is NOT a mind reader and this is your chance to express your secret goals and desires because this is called Shared Sacred Space. You are completely responsible for the outcome of the tantra session you have chosen. Will you choose to suffer in silence and not have your needs met or will you choose to be fully responsible for your own personal growth and let your teacher know exactly what it is is you wish to learn and experience as a new student to tantra yoga.
Please realize this is NOT the time to leave your cell phone on unless of course it is a major crisis. How can you be fully present and healed if you are constantly focused on something that is not within your control. The mere fact and action that you have actively decide to focus and concentrate on the moment should give you an indication that stresses and worldly cares should now be laid to rest for a rainy day and your focus should be on breathing, ejaculatory control and bliss interaction.
This is not a game and yes this is your time to finally have center stage and be pampered and made to feel special. If you have one or two or even three goals have you set aside that time properly or are you concerned about what is going to happen after your tantra ceremony.
If you can only think or worry about your responsibilities know that that is mind chatter and that is your indirect way of preventing yourself from exploring your bliss either out of guilt or out of a sense that you are not worthy of the pampering.
Please consider this Sacred Space a time of reflection and healing. You can worry about the dinner meeting after your Tantra Ceremony. You can contact your significant other after your ceremony and after you have had time to regenerate and heal your heart. Do not allow distractions to interfere from your personal ME time .
Every environment you enter is going to change dependent upon who you decide to see as a teacher. Is your teacher a visiting Goddess to your city? Will you be requiring your healer to travel to you to your appointed hotel space as a convenience? Have you both agreed as student and teacher what is safe and healthy for you to explore? When was the last time you actually received a Tantra yoga massage or healing?
Do not cheat yourself or your tantra teacher. Be fully present and let your concerns rest to the side for how many hours you have chose to set up sacred space. Sacred Space is an opportunity to grow. You use sacred space as Sacred magic and as a playful interchange that will affect your creative flow after your tantra session has been completed.
Are you open minded enough to realize that each teacher has a unique presentation of tantra yoga and you can learn and heal and be nurtured by varied styles? There are no accidents. Like energies attract like energies so just know what ever state of mind you are in and what ever physical blocks you are experiencing will be reflected in the teacher you choose and you become Sacred Healing mirrors to each other.
And on that note I truly wish you luck on your journey and I hope you celebrate the Full moon today in beauty ❀

Come visit me here in Atlanta Georgia or host me in your city today. I offer healing one on one for individuals seeking a vast change and improvement in their well being and I am also available for couples and intimate group workshops for a small gathering. Please never be offended if I ask you politely to verify who you are. There is a bridge of trust that we can get over together. Let me share your unique journey with you and be open about who you are, where you want to be and what your goals are. We share sacred space together we are both equally responsible as Tantra Healers and Tantra Shamans for the Co creation of Sacred Space.
Namaste.. and in complete non judgement let me open sacred Tantra yoga for you.
Goddess Diana http://www.tantrabutterfly.com
Mobile contact 312-339-7707
Please always be prepared to share yourself with me and let’s work on your bliss!
tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com or butterflyshadows@aol.com

April 13, 2013 No comments

Tantra Atlanta Chakra Sage Burning Rituals ❤

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My favorite ceremony to begin setting up sacred space is the sage burning ritual. The sage burning ritual his its traditional roots based in Native American Indian tradition. I first became introduced to this cleansing ritual by a Reiki Healer in Chicago, Illinois. When I first lay on his table he began by using a huge, sage wand made of pure white sage and he lit it and waved the wand of sage all over my major chakra bodies.

I began to feel not only soothed and safe but deeply grounded. It was the most relaxing experience I had ever had in my life. I watched the swirls of blue smoke escalate around me, and the scent put me in a state of calm and deep trance.

He explained to me that the sage helps keep old negative energy I am holding onto away from our sacred time together. At the closure of his reiki session he again began to light the Sacred Sage wand and he traveled all over my auric field using the smoke to erase any excess energies from our time together. That was my first induction into the Native American Smudge ceremony and I have been using it on a daily basis to cleanse my Sacred Space before, during and after all of my Tantra Ceremonies in Atlanta and each city I decide to offer tantra.

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Before we consecrate our shared Sacred space I offer all my guests the opportunity to use my sage wand or bundle and practice cleansing all my chakra bodies.

In essence this is a shared ritual and we will both have the opportunity to work on each other’s auras using the Sage ritual so that once you are home with your partner you will fully grasp what we have shared together in my home.

Sage can come in three forms as follows: White sage, cedar and sweetgrass. I personally prefer the clean smell of white sage because it does not lead to headaches and it is the least strong odor of the three forms of sage. During our smudge burning ritual I will use a huge sage wand initially and during our time together to sweep off any excess nervous energy you no longer wish to carry on you.

The purpose of this burning ritual is to cleanse not only you but our shared energy, our shared space, and to purify my intentions as your healer. This is a shared shamanic journey, and as we work together with all your chakras in a sensual and healing journey, the smoke from the sage will make you feel safer and will help you let go of the chatter in your mind or any energies blocking you from feeling sensual pleasure during our tantra session.

At the closure of any of my tantra ceremonies I will sweep you again with the sage smoke spending time where I intuitively feel you need to ground your energies and let out excess anxieties that no longer serve you. Some people find that the sage can break them of “bad” habits or negative thoughts and you can always bless your home throughout the day using the techniques I teach you during our shared sacred time together….

April 2, 2013 No comments

Goddess Diana visits Manhattan New York Explore Kundalini with me this week!

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KUNDALINI SHAKTI….

She is our latent sexual power.
So where is the seat of sexual fulfillment? If we activate our sleeping serpent what do we gain? We gain so much more than just sexual arousal we gain empathy, we gain compassion, we are clear channels or vessels for energy to run through us. If our kundalini energy is somewhat esoteric for us to understand let me tell you a simple way to envision her.

Our chakras are full activated and aroused by intention, proper breathing techniques, hand placement and pulsation. The easiest ways for you to awaken any chakra in your body is simply to clench your muscles tightly in that one major chakra system of your auric body.

You can tighten and unclench your buttocks and your sphincter muscles for instance if you wish to open up your first chakra or base chakra. If you clearly envision flushing this part of your body with a rich red hue and breathe with the intention of sending forceful energy and healing into this area of your body then you have started to awaken your Root chakra. So what do we gain by awakening our root chakra in this fashion? We gain stamina with our sex partners, we gain greater body awareness, we learn to separate our second chakra from our first chakra and help heal and refreshen our energies that may have lay dormant with numbness and we create a passage way to receive healing and abundance. If we activate and focus on awakening our base chakra we become more secure in ourselves and our decision making.

Activation is not always a smooth road to clarity however. In fact you might have issues with rage, pain, spasms, muscles that can lock up because you have not used them in years and a myriad of other growing pains. All of these obstacles are clearly good signs you are headed towards greater awareness and fulfillment.

The tail bone is where our Kundalini Shakti resides and she can either be full awakened or dormant and inactive. A more sensitive person–for instance someone who understands the complexities of subtle energy will be someone who was born with a full activated Kundalini center and for them they have an easier time seeing auras and feeling the sensations of intense energy. A person born with a fully activated Kundalini Shakti may experience intense emotion and might need to set strong boundaries so they can separate their energies from being bombarded from the energies of those around them.

For others they have a much harder time understanding the complexities of energy. They might be puzzled and think a bit too much rather than feel with their heart. If you have patience though anyone can receive the gifts of a fully awakened Kundalini shakti.

Let’s make the complex simple here.
A shortcut to helping you awaken Kundalini shakti is the simple act of using one index finger and firmly pulse pulse pulse that tiny spot of energy on your lower tail bone. Just breathe fully into your kundalini shakti slowly and rhythmically until you feel like you are falling into a slow trance. Be patient. Keep up the pulsing for a full 45 minutes if you feel you need to. If you are patient with yourself you will gradually feel heat sensations automatically pulsing in this area as you are going through your daily routine activities. You might feel her awaken and pulsate as you go through states of lucid dreaming when you are resting in your bed.

The key to arousing our sleeping serpent is focused intention and concentrated effort. Be kind to yourself always honor yourself and don’t question whether your end result will end in outstanding sex. Your focus should be on healing and opening up any trauma your body might carry.

Another short cut to Kundalini awakening is partnering up with a professional or a dear friend and when you feel the need for touch have someone you trust practice connecting your kundalini pulse point with all your other chakra systems in your body. If feelings of sadness or anger should occur bless that anger or that humiliation but don’t take it on. Let the anger leave you. Allow the pain if any to go through its natural course. Be the vessel but don’t take on the pain and allow it to congeal. We release energies that we don’t need through the vocal chords or throat chakra so if you need to scream or chant as you let go of sexual energy then scream and tone. Sexual energy is always released out of our throat chakras and our crown chakras so let that suppressed energy travel out of your mouth by emitting sounds to what you are feeling. If you feel bliss let out the bliss. If you feel pain put a vocalization to that pain.

Never second guess yourself. All feelings are uniquely your own but it is your responsibility to honor your feelings and realize they are not bad or wrong they are proof that you have been sleeping and now you are on a journey of wakefulness.

Kundalini awakenings are the goals of any tantra union. Our goal is centered so much on pleasure or orgasm or hot and spicy sexual union. Our goal is self awareness and self preservation with the healthy delineation of boundaries. All energy that you feel whether or not it translates into bliss or pain should be blessed and honored. There are no expectations and this is no race or competition with yourself or others.

One goal is to remember we want our Kundalini energy to reach our 7th chakra or our Cranium. Our Kundalini Shakti is in our lower tail bone or just directly above the perineum. This means any blow or major injury we may have incurred here can affect our ability to enjoy full kundalini bliss. But injuries and traumas can be healed. We don’t have to remain in a state of misunderstanding, denial and pain. We have choices and opportunities to explore our bliss in a safe place. If we try to awaken our sleeping energy we might feel the temporary pleasure and affects of arousal and enlightenment but the results might be fleeting or temporary.

If we are more patient with ourselves and we meditate on the breath and focused intention we can gain a more permanent state of bliss and this is when the transformational powers of Kundalini Shakti come into play. If we are stable and the energy running through us is more constant we can gain deeper insight and make profound changes in our lifestyle with confidence. In other words we become more Conscious Beings. We are more insightful and free once we have a greater command of our Kundalini Shakti.

Kundalini Shakti must reach upwards to all the higher chakras in order to help you open up your potential to be receptive to love and being in a state of bliss. If you were to only focus on your sexual pleasures and not attempt to carry it upwards into your heart chakra with concentrated breathing then you would not achieve the profound result of greater self awareness and heightened sensitivities. If you are following your bliss time will be warped. Several hours will feel like minutes to you and you will be in a state of trance bliss.

Now one thing you have to understand is this. We are all human. We all make mistakes. We are emotional beings but we have the capability of leaving the mundane and being more sensitive by practicing the art of compassion and imagining that with each breath we take we are pulling the energies of our sleeping snake slowly up her long journey from the base of our spine up till she reaches the tops of our skulls. Once you envision her ascent you want to pull her out of your Crown chakra and see that energy leaving your skull. Don’t make things more complicated than they should be. The easiest meditations lead the highest results and the small efforts you make each day are far more effective than rushing and forcing this process before you physically capable of receiving her in full force. We awaken her ascent with intention, compassion and gentle touch. We are all capable of being fully aware of our energies but it takes time and practice. These should be your guidelines in your practice of Kundalini Shakti and awakening Consciousness is the main goal and union of Tantra Yoga ♥

So bring a little bit of Technicolor back into your life.
Explore your Bliss.
Explore your rage
Break free of your numbness but realize you are in control of your own energy and you are full responsible for your own evolution ♥ You have a lifetime to explore your bliss so don’t rush it but don’t ignore it…!

February 28, 2013 No comments

How do we Choose to Honor the Goddess?

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So you are on your way to meet your new Goddess healer or shall we say Dakini or shall we say Tantrika. How flippantly we use these phrases but do we even care what they mean? I have been in my field for over 15 years and thank Goddess I still look young but that is because despite what I offer my sessions are not about my needs they are my student’s needs but they exclude my body meaning when someone wishes to learn Goddess Worship I am very careful about the energies we share depending upon the motivations of someone who comes to see me especially the first time they see me.

Some people do not understand what Goddess worship is. They assume that Goddess worship means the Goddess honors them blindly and will do anything in her personal power to make him happy (no matter what). No that is not the meaning of Goddess worship.

Other people new to Goddess worship assume that a Goddess is a Domina and she is a dominant which means the student will blindly worship her and he will subjugate himself to his Goddess do anything she wishes which includes house chores, humiliation or a light spanking and whipping with a paddle… and No that is not Goddess worship either.

Goddess worship is the art of seeking to heal your partner’s scar tissue and deep emotional wounds. The pelvis or pelvic cradle does carry much trauma and deep emotional scar tissue from early childhood upbringing and or abusive sexual and or personal relationships one has had with their parents, or elders or past loves and lovers.

Goddess worship is best explored in the context of putting one’s selfish needs to the side. Goddess worship does not mean you are having your Goddess as a Dessert. Goddess worship is not blind groping and fondling of the Goddess in front of you for your selfish needs and desires. In fact if you are in poor physical shape and you can barely breathe properly into your own heart there is going to be limited ability for you to breakthrough and heal the Goddess or heal her yoni scar tissue.

In order to approach Goddess worship in the correct spirit and manner you must approach your Goddess with complete reverence and a very bad way for you to begin any Goddess worship ceremony with your new Goddess teacher is by insulting her on her choice of clothing or coming to her Sacred Space with judgements on her taste of decoration or going through her things without her permission. Some people feel that because they have paid for a session they are owed a certain sense of entitlement or privileges. This is not the case at all. Typically a prior conversation with your Goddess is the perfect time to address any issues you have with personal hygiene and or living space arrangement. If you know your hostess has pets are you prepared to offer a kennel fee in advance so the pets will not be in her space. Are you willing to take allergy pills beforehand if you have allergies to dander? Are you coming to her space fully awake and refreshed or are you going to be doing some light drinking or coming to her home directly after a dinner party? All these things are very relevant and important to discuss with your Goddess.

Are you calling your Goddess just fifteen minutes before 11 pm at night expecting her to come to your hotel room and give you a healing and pampering session yet you decide you want a Goddess ceremony for a shorter length of time because it is the end of the day for you yet you wish to honor her. Does that feel respectful to you? If you are not giving adequate notice and you are not willing to come close to her price requirements then you are probably not truly honoring the goddess you are taking advantage of someone’s kindness..

Compassion and an open heart are key tools to honoring the Goddess. If you contact your Goddess early in the day and you have agreed to the correct tribute that honors her energy then you are on your way to understanding the nuances of Goddess healings.
Goddess worship is not about taking advantage of someone’s kindness and pressuring her to show her special techniques to you upon command. If you have only had a handful of tantra healings yourself and if you are not practicing these techniques daily or following up on DVD’s or workshops for beginners then you are not being fair to yourself or your goddess. You must be honest with your Goddess and tell her how little or how much practical experience you do have with honoring Goddess energy. As a beginner you start with baby steps until you yourself feel enough self confidence to learn more intricate ceremonial offerings. You want to approach this type of work with reverence and not rush the experience.

If you are on a budget and all you can afford is a mini session once a month then at least you are achieving and working towards a goal. Goddess worship sessions are most ideal when you already have someone special in your life and you simply want your partner or sacred other to reap the benefits of your new found joy and knowledge of sacred touch.

You should always let your Goddess do all the leading because the Goddess you chose is a unique guide and it is her intuition and her inner voice that feels your energy and she will intuitively pick up on how ready and prepared you are based on your confidence or awkwardness.

No one likes to feel pressured into doing something that is against their free will. Each goddess is a Sacred Other and if you are in tune with her energies and her needs and you can simply slow down and let go of your needs and your ego and impulses then you can build your ability to tune into your own innate Divine Feminine energy which runs through you in the form of Kundalini Shakti.

We don’t try to conquer the Yoni we try to heal her and send her focused love with the intentions of having her awaken on her time table NOT YOURS.

Goddess worship is Sacred. Goddess Worship is a Sacrament. Each time we touch the yoni we have the unique opportunity to gaze upon her loveliness and feel her powerful energy as Sacred mother and Source. If we do not approach the yoni with reverence we only injure her and harm ourselves karmically. We can only build trust and love by going inwards and stopping ourselves in our tracks to give some positive reflection of what we seek when we seek to touch yoni.

If you are prepared to give a Goddess healing honor your Goddess. Bring her a special house warming gift. Bring her a piece of your genuineness and share your softness with her but do not be demanding or threatening or withholding because that will close off her yoni flower and the yoni is the most positive representative of Divine creator we have so she shall not be Squandered or dismissed.

Be aware that each time you breathe into your heart chakra you have the unique power to bless the sacred mother simply by being a present and conscious lover.

Goddess Diana Sacred Space Tantra Butterfly

The yoni is a Sacred Temple

February 11, 2013 No comments

Goddess Diana My Sacred Yoni of Empowerment…

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My yoni is a healer. She deserves to be honored. My yoni is a Sacred vessel of unity and divine light. The yoni is not only an object of devotion but she actually sends out a radiance of pure healing light. During ceremony I am constantly pulsing my yoni for it is this act alone that sends a powerful message of love. I find that if I just focus on my breathing alone and I do not contract my yoni muscles my partner simply does not feel the full benefit of my healing touch.

We consciously send forth powerful love pulses with each simple contraction. Must a Goddess be breathtakingly beautiful in order for a man to feel her sacred healing vibe? This is confusing to many men who simply have no idea what a tantra ceremony involves.

Tantra is a portal of honoring the Sacred other. The more we learn to accept and honor all forms of beauty the more open our hearts become. We as goddesses should not mock the work of our sister goddesses nor should we steal or copy or plagiarize their unique styles.

The yoni is a vessel of rebirth and so many emotions are experienced during a tantra healing. First there is the emotion of fear and nervousness. It is not easy to bare your soul or share your sacred sexual energy with another. If you have gone without genuine tenderness for months or years and you decide to invest in yourself and spent time and money on a tantra ceremony then you want to feel safe and you may want to feel you were listened to and you were genuinely cared for. Sometimes we go through layers of hidden rage and you hold in that rage and never communicate with your healer but you decide to take out that buried anger by using the tactics of slander or outbursts to heal your wounds. The yoni is a Sacred vessel and she might take you on a journey of fear and rage. We have to let go of the rage and hurt to explore our inner magic. If we have numbed ourselves to the point where we have not even cuddled another person the act of simply spooning someone is painful.

During my many ceremonies I worked with men who were desensitized to the point where they could not feel their own energy circulating in their bodies. They got discouraged after just one session but tantra uncovers all your layers and there is no quick fix to years of pain. Talk therapy along with tantra is wise. If there are buried energies inside your second sexual chakra you have to somehow release that pain and let it out through the throat chakra and other channels.

When the time is right you will naturally want to let go and release and relax. The yoni is the Sacred mother … the Sacred Womb and the Sacred Birth place. If you send out so much anger at your healer you are only sending out misdirected anger at your childhood. None of us had the chance as young children to fully verbalize all our needs. We had no voice …we could only cry if we were hungry or scared or discouraged or uncomfortable. Now as adults we do have a voice and we can release in a very healing and positive way. Tantra is an exploration of honoring your Divine feminine even if you are a born a male. All women and men carry the spark of God and Goddess energies equally. This is called the yin and the yang. All our organs are either yin or yang and we attract and repel. If you can send unconditional love to all aspects of your personality then you are in touch with your unique gifts. It takes a lot of work to love your weaknesses and to forgive those that sent cruelty your way. If you encounter anger when you meet your teacher step back for a bit and ask yourself what is it about this person that scares you? If you are simply not ready for the journey of self discovery then you may wish to hold off the ceremony for a future date but if you plunge in and you work with your healer then you can uncover some shaky truths and work on your foundation.