I feel the need to write today mostly because I am always spot on correct when I read an email from a new potential client and know deep down they simply wanted to VENT to me but they honestly weren’t Emotionally prepared to begin a tantra ceremony in real life.

In all fairness tantra isn’t for everyone and everyone is motivated by different reasons to try a session whether it’s strictly curiosity, too much personal stress in their life or they love healing connection.

Half the people that reach out to me are high achievers who know what they want and how to get it. They love their partners, love their career and they want a session as a treat because they feel they deserve it.

Other people are involved in reiki, yoga, music and creative pursuits so they crave chakra balancing, and breath coaching along with the sensual touch.

I also receive requests from single mothers, caregivers, independent business owners and men whose wives are chronically ill.  These people are under a lot of stress and so they contract my services as a means of letting go and treating themselves.

Other people want and deeply desire tantra but they don’t fully understand what tantra is. They send me “novels” instead of a brief emails which to me is a “red flag” because it’s almost as if they are trying too hard to convince themselves and me that they are ready to jump in without having spoken to me on the phone or meeting me in person!

I’m not a guru and I truly don’t feel like conning anyone into the false idea that one or even several tantra sessions will shift you from previous abuse into a new paradigm of being victorious.

On the contrary I do believe if you personally have been molested or victimized or similarly violated emotionally and or sexually you need to visit a real counselor like a licensed psychiatrist or talk therapist first.

Sexual molestation is a very harmful blow to your psyche and I certainly don’t wish to trigger anyone who has been molested and hasn’t done some inner healing work first.

I know while reading these emails who is emotionally able to receive kundalini Shakti and who is lying to themselves by the way they express themselves through the written word. I also know that most sexual molestation victims typically can’t reach out on the phone to even talk to me in real time because they may not be ready to start the healing process just yet.

I do receive many earnest emails from new clients who won’t ever call me and that to me speaks volumes because if they can’t use their own throat chakra to express their goals and desires to me or anyone then their personal power is being blocked and it isn’t part of their truth to want a real shift or change to occur.

When I read emails I’m not expecting anyone to really follow through until I hear it in their voice first.  I can always tell who is ready to relax and be healed and who is just too nervous and kidding themselves .

I myself have had a few disappointments with psychic readers who just weren’t tapping into my consciousness. These readers might be great with other people who aren’t as self aware as I am but I do know what it’s like to seek real help and realize no one has the ability to fix me…I have to fix myself.

One tantra session with me will clear away some cobwebs of debris and make you feel more hopeful, motivated and refreshed; but then you yourself are responsible every day afterwards to pursue your own self healing journey, whether it’s counseling, journaling, self reiki, better diet, walks in nature or positive visualization.

Whenever anyone was traumatized I always suggest we meet eachother for coffee first and get together so I can take notes and ascertain what is the very best session I can offer to someone I don’t personally know. I will charge a small fee however because I’m a professional and I’d like to be honored for my time. The fee is nominal and is used as a deposit towards reiki, chakra balancing or tantra for a future session.

I do not feel it’s fair of anyone to expect me to give a free psychic healing or free consultation through email alone or a long phone conversation because it means the new client is feeling me out.  I can’t convince anyone that the time is right for a tantra ceremony or tantra massage.  I’m not dissuading anyone from plunging ahead but when I receive too much information in my first email from a complete stranger and no phone call after I respond to them then I know I’m being lied to.

Only a handful of people who have tried tantra before know that every teacher or tantra yogi presents their sessions individually and if the teacher is any good he or she will use their intuition along with a couple of goals from their new student as a guide.

If I suggest a meet and greet over coffee it’s because I do want to get to know you as a friend so that when we have our first tantra session you won’t be worried or self conscious or scared.

When I meet new guests for coffee it’s because I feel that person needs a nudge and because I feel that individual needs to vent and share more of their story with me.  I only charge $50 for our initial consultation fee and it’s used as a deposit towards any session you choose.

I also encourage everyone to read my website at least once so that they can ask me educated questions rather ask me what my fees are. My fees are determined by the session you choose.  I have many choices on my website from cuddle therapy to reiki to advanced tantra, to Goddess Worship.  I have basic sensual massage all the way up to a full day of spa tantra retreats for people who have the time and the budget.

My ideal candidate is anyone emotionally mature to enjoy a journey of chakra balancing, therapeutic bodywork, reiki, aromatherapy and kundalini tantra massage.  I do not solicit anyone who isn’t psychically ready because that’s a waste of time for everyone involved. I’m not a free, unpaid, advisor.  I am not obligated to continue emailing anyone who can’t simply pick up the phone and find ten minutes out of their day to talk to me like a mature adult.  I do not need to read your life’s history in order to give you a good healing.  I do understand it takes a lot of trust to begin any alternative healing journey and that’s why I recommend meeting me for a paid consultation if you have any doubt prior to meeting me.

I needed to write this article today because I do get frustrated and disappointed when new guests make prejudgments about my skillset or my motivations.  My motivation is to work with new clients who will benefit from my healing touch and who will appreciate and enjoy my services.  I do this work because I’m good at moving energy and I love healing through touch.  I do not however like being used as a free psychotherapist.  I do not need to read through lengthy emails from people who are fooling themselves and trying to fool me.  I do offer paid talk therapy and paid coffee consultations for anyone that has even a shred of doubt.

I hope this article helps you understand that tantra is just one of many healing paths to help you achieve self awareness and balance; but you yourself have to continue following your own path of magic and self love.

If you know you are ready for one of my tantra massage ceremonies here in Chicago please call me today at 312 339 7707.  If you want to meet me for coffee this week in Chicago or nearby suburbs I will work around your schedule and have a real time honest discussion with you so you can make an educated choice and give you advice.

My main website is http://www.tantrabutterfly.com so spend an hour reading it prior to calling me in person.  If you want to break the ice by sending me a brief email you can use my primary contact form or either of these email addresses:

Butterflyshadows@aol.com

Tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com

Introduce yourself briefly using your real name so I know you are sincere and so I know you are a legitimate new student of tantra.

You do not need to send me your life story; in fact I discourage you from divulging too much information because part of our tantra ceremony will include us meeting together and chatting briefly before our tantra massage even begins in real time.  We will have ample time to talk about anything you wish once we have our first tantra session together.

Do not be worried if you do not have prior experience in energy work. You are contacting me because you are either curious about what tantra truly is or you’ve had tantra massage and you absolutely love it so you wish to repeat your positive experience with me as your guide.

I’d be delighted and excited to meet you here in Chicago which includes the suburbs of Schaumburg, O’hare, Oakbrook, Elk grove Village, Rosemont and the Magnificent Mile near River North.  I will travel anywhere to you within the city of Chicago or neighboring suburbs.

When you call me directly let me know who you are and briefly introduce yourself to me .  Everything we decide to do will be planned based on your time constraints, budget and personal goals.