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Google My Business suspended my profile (again)

This is a message to whomever reported my business profile on Google– I wish you nothing but bad karma. I’ve always been caring and extremely generous to all my clients. The only people I don’t work with are unkind, self entitled men who hate women. Men who think that I don’t deserve to know their real legal name because I’m not worthy of respect and my safety isn’t important.

My services are for people who actually respect me and feel absolutely no sense of shame when they reach out to me. I am not a scary, cruel person. I don’t mistreat people who visit me. I work with plenty of wonderful people and then there are a handful of people who don’t listen. They don’t know how to listen and honor my boundaries or they choose not to listen because I’m the service they hired.

There are also people who think my pricing is unfair and an absolute rip off because they think the work I do is extremely easy. Others think I charge way too little because some of my competitors charge $800 for two hours of tantra and so new guests assume I must not be any good at what I do because literally I don’t charge anywhere near that.

Some people decide against working with me because via email they ask me if I’m still working in my field and when I reply and give my pricing information and deposit procedure they never call me at all. Instead they passive aggressive and shop around for the most submissive practitioner who will take them on as a new client without requiring a deposit.

They disappear not asking me why I need a deposit. They move on and pick someone else because I wanted to be treated with respect and like a real business professional.

Anyway now that my page is gone I don’t have to worry about the petty retaliation from angry men who flag my profile because I refused them my services. I can be just as cruel as the men and women who contact me, ask me questions and move on to the next person.

Another possibility is the fact that I uploaded five new photos to my Tantra business profile then created an update and a coupon code offering couples a discount. Now that could have triggered the AI robots 🤖 since I added so many changes to my profile within three business days. Perhaps the AI Bots are now directed to go after business accounts with the words tantra as a keyword.

Well this is literally the fifth and final Business profile I create. My long-term account was removed two years ago because I used a PO Box as a physical address to protect myself. I didn’t want to use a real physical address and have strangers visit me unexpectedly and ring my doorbell. Having a PO box used to be legally acceptable for small business owners to use on Google Maps for many years. Two years ago Google stated they no longer accept PO Boxes so instead of sending all of us a warning with enough time to change our addresses on Google Maps the AI BOTS suspended every business owner with PO Boxes not caring that our business opportunities would be negatively impacted.

So here I am it’s late at night and I’m in a city that no longer offers me the same flow of work I used to enjoy. No matter how much I market myself people call, ask me rude or annoying combative questions and move onto the next person. Clearly I’m emotional ly ready to let go of this negativity and move to a different city where I am more welcomed or it could be opportunities are drying up because men don’t respect older tantra practitioners and they move onto booking an appointment with a younger woman they can mold and easily manipulate.

To anyone who flagged me may you receive the same treatment and loss of work opportunities.

I AM DONE….

The number one most hurtful question I was asked within 3 weeks

Well what shall I say. How do I begin even? A new client asked me two weeks ago If I would have a safe environment for her to visit. I replied by being genuinely confused and asked her why she might feel unsafe and what made her think she would be unsafe.

She Apologized and said she was just nervous and didn’t know what to ask. My reply of course is I can always prepare sacred space in your home, your condo or hotel as long as it isn’t super far away but if you are an hour away you can take care of my Uber fees round-trip and include a nice tip for my troubles.

I sincerely can’t figure out why my environment would be frightening to anyone but the only suggestion to counter initial fears would be to schedule a coffee ☕ consultation with me and see me in person or create an appointment for a virtual coffee and Q & A session for $100.

I feel a lot of people are afraid of strangers working with their energy especially if they’ve never even tried reiki or tantra yoga in a group setting let alone a more private space where the focus is on you.

All I can say is you have to start somewhere and if the experience is positive then continue practicing tantra massage until you feel an improvement in your energy and your outlook on your issues. If the experience was underwhelming or you felt uncomfortable then at least you tried it once and you can wait a few months or a year and try it again when you feel more emotionally ready.

The key is to let go and release all your fears and expectations of what you think you’re supposed to feel and experience. If you decide to book me for a coffee ☕ consultation in person bring a few index cards with you with prepared goals and questions to ask me. I promise to bring you my full attention and a journal and jot down everything you wish to share.

You can’t learn anything about Kundalini energy by reading books or watching videos. You learn how to access your sexual energy by experiencing an authentic tantra ceremony where breathwork and chakra balancing are implemented to help you harness and restore your emotional and spiritual well being.

I hope you give my tantra ceremonies a chance without doubting yourself or creating a barrier of fear based on self doubt.

Please read my website first http://www.tantrabutterfly.com then call me directly 312 339 7707 and send me a short email introduction

tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com

when contacting me by phone or email or text message please include your full legal name and occupation for the verification process

I pride myself on being an extremely friendly and outgoing person who never judges anyone. Please don’t judge me without at least meeting me in person

Your fears are valid but don’t allow your fear to prevent you from discovering your own personal reserve of healing energies within you.

Tantra isn’t meant to be a Novelty Experience

Hello Everyone 👋 I feel as if people truly don’t understand the purpose of receiving an authentic tantra ceremony so let me bring up some issues because lately I am noticing a trend where people are not committed to practicing daily or they expect a single session to be a one and done singular experience.

Nothing makes me feel more discouraged than witnessing a couple hurriedly leave a longer ceremony and wrap up their day with me and rush off to do their next activity. We just explored energy work together. You will need rest and time to nap or take a long bath together or just cuddle for an hour. It truly breaks my spirit to watch a couple hurriedly get dressed and rush rush rush without allowing themselves to process the energywork properly.

I love the work I do but it does take a lot out of me to teach two people how to connect to eachother and prepare an authentic tantra massage for eachother. It’s hard work for all of us and it isn’t meant to be taken lightly either.

Tantra isn’t a “novelty” experience. We aren’t in the movies and there isn’t anything glamorous about creating sacred space. You will learn how to touch your partner with positive and loving intentions and you will learn to be more patient and present for yourself and your partner. There is a lot to teach and I suggest no less than three hours but I will not expect you to know everything in one session so ask me questions and go easy on yourself. You are not performing for me and I am here to guide you both and answer your questions.

Tantra is a life changing opportunity that will open portals and opportunities for you to connect you to the highest version of yourself.

Tantra isn’t meant to be a Novelty once in a lifetime experience.  Once you have one tantra session you should still practice a little bit daily on your own.

Be proactive! Buy some books and videos and learn from different teachers in YouTube.  One teacher isn’t going to have all the answers or tools you need to Master your own Energy.

Schedule multiple sessions with one person you trust or try sessions with different people and learn what you can with each person you meet.

It’s always preferable to build loyalty with one person and then partake in #tantra retreats if you can afford it.  During these workshops you meet a variety of people.  Some participants learning with you might feel like part of your soul family while others may actually trigger you and make you reexamine your feelings and self worth.

Regardless of where you are energetically and physically tantra is a form of #Yoga and your body will shift and go through its own unique changes.  

I do offer full day tantra ceremonies for anyone seeking relaxation therapy, education, detoxification and pure bliss

If you have the time and curiosity I can even offer tantra intensive journeys for yourself or for you and your partner as a couple.  The weekend will be a series of mini lessons and practice time for yourselves.

Schedule a paid coffee ☕ consultation or phone consultation if you have questions

Get ready to be overwhelmed especially if you are sensitive to energy and need to feel connected back to your physical core.

I love shaking up your misconceptions. I love helping you restore balance within your body and clear out trauma within your body’s memories. Never be afraid of change.

Enjoy my primary website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com

Call me directly to book a beautiful ceremony for yourself or as a couple.

312 339 7707

tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com

When clients make me Cringe

I am going to start off my paragraph here with deep gratitude for all the wonderful and sensitive clients I’ve met in my lifetime. The clients I met who were loyal to me and who looked forward to my visits whenever I traveled to their cities. If it weren’t for these special men and these lovely experiences 💕 I probably would not have lasted so long in my industry. Most of these thoughtful men were from the East coast or locals here in Chicago. I could count on their repeat visits and some in the past visited me weekly or even twice a week if it was within their budget and means to do so. Now however I see so much less loyalty with an oversaturation of women who have lost their jobs due to the challenging economy. Their heart isn’t in it but they need the money to support their families and they are charging less than market value out of desperation. Men see this as an opportunity to take full advantage of this new crisis and even the men who can afford a luxury budget or moderate budget are chasing after deals and desperation. I see much less loyalty as men chase after the newest provider visiting the city as a hobby and a form of excitement. It’s unfortunate though and I see that this defines how I see my near future.

Now let’s focus on my needs for security. Before I choose to work with anyone new I’d like to know my guest’s full legal name and occupation or if my client is retired I’d like to know their former career just for my safety and for verification purposes. My number one priority is safety and having a mutually enjoyable and relaxing experience without any drama. I’d like a deposit and if I don’t receive a deposit electronically a new guest can always take time out of their busy day or night 🌙 and meet me in person for a friendly coffee ☕ and offer me a cash deposit to hold an appointment date and time. I have no issues honoring a client’s needs for discretion however the full legal name is definitely the deal breaker. I have no desire to meet a random stranger i don’t know without a legal name and without knowing who this person looks like. This isn’t a James Bond movie and I’m not out to destroy anyone’s life or marriage. I just want complete transparency and disclosure so I don’t have to worry about my safety. If I feel intimidated I just can’t give anyone a soothing session.

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Now let me share my turn offs. I think men who contact me and ask me to visit them at their home or hotel must realize I will need to include an outcall fee to take care of my round-trip expenses and the time it takes for me to travel to their location. I recently received two separate calls this weekend from two different callers one who had seen me before and didn’t want my dog to be present during a session so he needed me to travel to him about thirty minutes away. Mind you I don’t drive nor do I own a car so when I offer outcall services I incur a cost both ways. He seemed stunned when I told him I could definitely visit him for an additional cost. I could hear him gasping …stunned that I needed compensation for my personal traveling expenses. He said oh what will it be like $15 or $20? I could feel how concerned he was so I assured him it might be even less depending upon the time I took my uber. Then he said he needs to see if his children will be out of the house and I suggested he simply come here to visit but he didn’t want my dog present which astounds me because my pyrenees is super gentle, calm and usually hides in a corner to nap quietly if I’m in session. He then asks via text if I offer “pegging” sessions and I offer prostate massage obviously which is listed on my website but I don’t list pegging as an option. I don’t own this type of harness and I remember telling him on his first and ( last) visit that he will need to buy this apparatus because I’m not investing in one. I personally feel if he needs this type of stimulation he should probably hire a she male instead of a woman. The whole text and conversation we had was cringe worthy. His attitude towards my dog even more cringe. I love my pets and I do understand some people have phobias which is why I’m happy to offer outcall services but then my clients need to realize I am paying for my ubers and it takes time out of my schedule to travel so appropriate compensation is expected. If a client wants to save money and pick me up that’s fine too but I’ll always think they are stingy by not offering a tip for my travel time. I am a professional treat me with kindness and respect instead of exploiting me. I might smile politely and be accommodating but I might choose not to work with that individual moving forward because the lack of respect for my time is a huge red flag.

So now you know a few of my triggers. One is asking for services not listed on my website http://www.tantrabutterfly.com and another is requesting me to visit you without paying a generous outcall fee of at least $100 for my travel time and personal costs incurred. If I have to travel a full hour or more to get to you add an additional fee on top of the $100 and you need to be staying at a highly rated hotel in order for me to feel comfortable or a beautiful private residence. My space will always have pets. No need for anyone to visit me who has allergies but then you must incur the expenses for an outcall fee or provide a space for us to meet for our session.

I will never compromise my need for safety. I do not like people seeking “deals ” or attempting to exploit me when they are able to afford my pricing structures.

In the meantime I end this narrative on a positive note. Thankfully the majority of people I worked with have been generous, thoughtful and polite. A few clients wrote me lovely reviews or told their friends to hire me so I could remain busy enough to stay in my field. I end with gratitude and wish to continue to attract sensitive, caring ❤ individuals seeking a beautiful healing journey. I wish to always keep my heart and tantra practice open to anyone who is touch starved or simply needs to relax and reconnect to their body and inner joy.

If you think we will make a good energy match I hope to hear from you soon! I prefer a direct call 📞 312 339 7707 but if you choose to text make sure to introduce yourself by including your full name in the body of the text so I feel comfortable responding to you. You may also reach me at either of my email accounts

butterflyshadows@aol.com and

tantragoddessdiana@gmail.com

You may also schedule a coffee ☕ consultation for just $100 for the full hour. If you choose to visit me within 48 hours of our coffee date you may use that money 💰 as a deposit towards your tantra ceremony. I will listen to your goals and answer all your queries and questions.