Many people are fascinated by the mystique of the feminine awakening and the power of yoni massage. Half the men who call me are curious and wish to learn some secrets so that their partner will feel more enlivened by her own sexuality. My opinion is you simply can not force your partner into a sexual orgasm but you can envision her as a more whole Goddess able to receive and be awakened by your healing touch. Only 1/4 of the people who do call me are women and maybe only five of those women will want to explore their energy and feel safe enough to have a yoni Goddess massage.
I will never encourage a couple to learn tantra yoni massage unless both partners are excited about the healing prospects of yoni empowerment. During a tantra ceremony or yoni healing the focus is on empowerment, trust, healing trapped trauma and sending unconditional love vibrations to the pelvic cradle and genitalia.
There is nothing “filthy”, unwholesome, naughty or salacious about a yoni empowerment and if a man is practice yoni healing using my body as a model the focus is on my pleasure or my healing and not the excitement level of the student working with my energy. Many women will distrust or pull away from her partner if she is not feeling safe, respected or loved. We are not pieces or body parts, we are not masturbatory objects we are Goddesses each one of us resonating and flowering under the right partner. If you can’t accept your partner has feelings and deserves to receive pleasure just by the mere fact that she is worthy of your respect and love then something is wrong with the way you perceive women and the sacred act of tantra massage and intimacy.
Yoni healing, tantra massage, lingham honoring and Goddess honoring involve intimacy, patience, sincerity and a willingness to keep an open mind. Boundaries play a very important role in yoni worship because if at any time your touch is too intense or uncomfortable you must let your ego go and really listen to what your Goddess is telling you. There is nothing wrong in receiving important feedback that might help you and your partner bond better.
Tantra yoni empowerment involves empowering her divine feminine essence which is called Shakti. When shakti is awakened her life force is channeled starting at her tail bone which is called the Kundalini Shakti and this powerful energetic surge allows her to feel more erotic and less judgmental of herself. This blissful state can awaken and charge up all the chakras in her body making her more sensually aware, possibly be more intuitive and see colors more brightly and actually make her feel more positive about being here in the physical body. We gain higher Consciousness when we tap into our untapped sensual energies.
Sensuality is not sinful it’s healing and makes you want to create more beauty in this world.
Along with the feelings of pleasure and expansion there can also be feelings of unworthiness or vulnerability. Everyone carries their own energies and memories to the work we do. One person might be aware of stored trauma so suddenly it is overwhelming and they might need to stop having you work on their yoni just to remember something. We trigger stored memories in our cells each time we have any kind of energy work done so be respectful and mindful when your partner needs to simply stop. Never take it personally just let your partner verbalize what they need to express in the moment and be full accepting and present so they feel safe sharing with you.
Now that you understand why men and women want to learn tantra yoni healing you may want to work with someone you trust. Straight on sexual intercourse has its own special place but if you want to delve into the realm of breaking through real barriers and making progress you should focus on yoni massage and from someone preferably with a background in healing and tantra yoga.
Only a trained certified tantra teacher knows how to hold sacred space and connect intimately with Shakti energy. If you can be fully receptive and allow your body the chance to be explored you will find out what makes you feel juicy inside or what makes you feel unsafe. We can clear out trauma and any negative triggers we might have stored over a lifetime of having our partners NOT listen to us. When we empower the yoni we have greater access to the Sacred Spot and the Sacred Spot or G-spot massage is the strongest area of the vagina that holds our trauma imprints and our pleasure zones. Not every woman is capable of feeling orgasm so easily because if you have been in unfulfilled relationships you might not even realize what an orgasm is. There are people who don’t even feel comfortable exploring their own bodies during the act of self pleasuring because they were taught to feel ashamed of their sexuality. When we empower the Yoni we free her of all negative power trips and we realize all guilt and fear. It might take one session or it might take several mini sessions built up over an extended period but eventually a profound healing and clearing does take place and the Goddess is able to blossom.
We are all Goddesses the Carriers of the Divine blessing and we create life within us. Breathing is self affirming. Each time we take in a deep breath of air we tell our bodies we are so worthy of this breath and this healing. We breathe in deeply each time we process our sacred sexual pleasure. We breathe this awareness into our lungs our heart chakras as if to say we are HERE in the NOW. We deserve to be honored, we deserve this pleasure and we deserve to have love in our lives. A trained Dakini or Daka (male tantra yoga practioner) is trained to hold sacred space and advise his or hers student to keep breathing slowly and deeply as the yoni is being honored and massaged. Each time we breathe deeply we reaffirm that we EXIST. We are important. We do matter. We are Being SEEN!
THERE is nothing more powerful than breath, laughter, healing touch and pleasure. Pleasure in and of itself is the most powerful Medicine we can find better than any prescription drug on the market.
When you have access to all your chakras through breath, sexual awareness and self love there is nothing you can’t do or CREATE. Just look around you. The world we live in is multidimensional rich in beauty, rich in smells, raw and gentle all at the same time. When we empower our Yonis we tap into our inner Strength and our Inner Goddess.