Posts tagged “couples massage

How to initiate a Traditional Tantra Session with your Partner ❤♥

"Resting Maiden", probably a portrait of Marie-Louise O'Murphy, mistress to Louis XV of France, oil on canvas, 1751.

“Resting Maiden”, probably a portrait of Marie-Louise O’Murphy, mistress to Louis XV of France, oil on canvas, 1751.

Are you up for a true challenge this Christmas? I always am and I am currently visiting Orlando, Florida hiding away from winter snow because I happen to love tropical weather and walking around in my sandals without worrying about wearing a coat. I am always ready for change and a change of scenery.
If you are a couple here in Orlando, Florida and you feel you are a ready to establish a more meaningful connection with your lover I would love to help you facilitate something special this December.
Many people need more play in their life. I realize many of you are Ceo’s and are professional so you are expected to show up at your work place calm, ready for anything and well polished.
Tantra teaches us to be comfortable with being ourselves. You are not expected to be anything or pretend to be someone you are simply expected to be ready to be accepted and loved unconditionally.
We begin the practice of unconditional love by sitting in silence with our partner. You may love the outdoors so maybe you might want to take your lover outside in a private place without distractions and stay seated in front of each other comfortably. You can gaze into your lover’s eyes and the just be present for her or him. You are not allowed to think of anything. Now that is more difficult than it seems. We sometimes think of the past, present and future but during this exercise you are a blank canvass, releasing all concerns and you are going to beam a strobe of complete, unconditional love into your partner’s eyes. You can try practicing this for fifteen minutes initially and then as you get better at it maybe prepare to spend a full 45 minutes just staring and smiling at each other contentedly. You will breathe together, holding hands and in this way all your chakra centers are in complete alignment.
These are exercises that are for couples seeking unity, understanding and an opening of their heart chakra centers.
Many people are confused about the true intention of tantra yoga. Yes you will grow as a couple more intimately and yes you will even crave each other more but this is created from a true heart intention and if you are able to make your partner feel safe and loved without raw, physical contact; just imagine how much more profound your love making ritual will grow once you become more sensitive to who your partner really is. You will be asking very little of each other but the honor of seeing through each other without judgement and without any hurry to go anywhere after the exercise is finished.
I am sure that many couples misconstrue the meaning of learning tantra. There are couples who are impatient and only want to get to the excitement of kama sutra and sexual positions but when they skip over the honoring of one another and deny the slow moving spiritual path of this work they will not reap the healing benefits of transitioning from a physical experience to a spiritual elevation.
I am open to teaching couples in the Orlando, Florida area now that I am here enjoying winter with all of you in this lush, laid back environment. I hope to attract a few couples or singles who have a half day to let go of their normal routines or their opinions of what tantra yoga is and is not.
I am here, present, open and willing to share my knowledge of tantra yoga for private sessions and couples sessions and I hope to connect with you during the week of Christmas. If you have time to grow please contact me this week in Orlando.

Goddess Worship is the Sacred Act of Pure, unconditional Love ❤♡

Today I’d love to help people understand the difference between raw, naked, passionate lust and true, intimate, compelling love making. Did you know you can make love to your lover without laying a finger on him or her? Did you know the preparation which leads up to the love making shows more care and concern than engaging in a raw, sexual encounter.

Almost all of us can appreciate that as young teenagers or college age adolescents we all had at least one sensual encounter where raw lust rather than love was involved. I feel that women have more of a tendency to give of themselves when they think they are in love and that women must feel safe before engaging in any sexual activity with someone she has chemical feelings for.

There is a difference between raw, impassioned chemistry and the vulnerability of being in love with someone.
When I work with men on Goddess worship my intention is to hopefully teach them how to use their voice, their eyes, their hands and their gentle intentions in a more loving and sensual way to instill a sense of calm, peacefulness and ease in their lover. No one likes being “seized” or hungrily groped during a love making session.

My true intentions are to help alleviate shyness and awkwardness between a man and is lover by teaching him to be less needy and more natural. Women are very sensitive beings and we love to approached with tenderness and not so much a sense of urgency or neediness. When men are too needy and focus on touch only from a place of desperation and lack then women tend to coil up and retreat back into themselves which will only make a man feel even more vulnerable and misunderstood. If a man is patient enough to listen to his lover’s body and get a sense of her body’s reaction to more gentle touches and strokes then his reward will be her yielding and he will feel her soften and invite more touch to the love making session.

Making love is always an art. When you dine out with someone special you want to take time to listen to your friend and you want to be non rushed. You are there for companionship not necessarily to gobble your food down as greedily and speedily as you can with a sense of urgency and impending doom. This is why men wish to learn tantra yoga and goddess worship.

Goddess worship is not BDSM. Goddess worship is the art of being open enough to listen and send loving vibes into the arena of sensual foreplay. You want to learn how to approach your lover with true compassion and not so much a motive or agenda. You are not there to “get her off” or fulfill your lustful needs. You are there to support her as a real woman who has vulnerability. You want to send her soothing sounds and make sure she feels safe in your presence. You should also be prepared for her to lay out a set of strong boundaries for you and if you hear her say she needs some time out from sensual play then you need to honor her wishes and let her feel safe enough to tell you what she needs more of or less of.

The session is about her and not you so please stand back and do not let your “ego” get in the way. Goddess Worship is an honoring of her divine feminine and her gentleness. You want to give her time to expand her heart towards you so that she feels safe and more receptive to your touch. Do not be impatient for instant results and do not make her feel self conscious if she can not have an orgasm in front of you. Orgasm is not the goal of a Goddess worship healing; orgasm is a delightful surprise that happens quite by accident with the main focus being her complete healing and deep feeling of being loved and honored by you.

Lust does not enter as part of the Goddess worship ceremony. Lust is a reaction to pure sexual attraction but if you are a true healer you do not have to be sexually attracted to your partner to heal her. You are there to make her feel safe and more feminine. You are the compassionate soul who loves her without conditions or ulterior motives.

The heart can become more guarded through years of repeated abuse either during the formative years of childhood or young adulthood dependent upon our encounters with the same sex and the opposite sex. Goddess worship helps heal those old wounds and traumas and brings two compassionate lovers closer together. You can share and trust more if you learn the basic healing techniques of Goddess worship and tantra massage.

I love working with men who have had no prior experience in tantra or Goddess worship. It is harder for me to teach men how to touch with love if they are visiting me for the wrong reasons. Tantra will heal you whether you decided to visit a goddess out of pure lust or whether you felt the need to be pampered for a few hours. There is no getting around the healing and you will find out you learn more about patience, empathy and unconditional love if you let yourself go and try to learn something new rather than follow the same old recipe.

Goddess Diana
http://www.tantrabutterfly.com
Muse, Educator, friend, Holistic Healer,
Couples Coach and Tantra Massage therapist
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Learning when to cancel a session GRACEFULLY ❤

Blue Dog MishkaWell I really hate to cancel sessions especially if someone is new and they have not had a tantra healing in a very long time. I hate to say no and sometimes I realize all too late I am not a Super Power and my body has its limitations.
I accidentally missed a session because out of no where my monthly cycle hit me while in my sleep. I am one of those lucky few who have no signs or symptoms other than a voracious sweet tooth so since I never cramp or feel any discomfort I really can not plan on my cycle.
I went to bed pretty early with my phone right next to my pillow and slept through it ringing from 3 a.m. all the way up until noon. It was a fitful sleep and probably just what my body needed but I wish I had stayed awake long enough to cancel my upcoming session knowing my cycle had hit. I was abnormally tired and sleepy this weekend and I accidentally missed the chance to work because a new person wanted to see me but I never heard my phone ring!

I guess this taught me that I need to listen to my body’s cues better and the first indication of my moon cycle I need to postpone work because sometimes one’s body has plans of its own. I read somewhere that if you don’t plan enough private healing time your body will take a time out on its own and prevent you from moving forward. This was an example of one of those times where I had no control and was so sleepy I could not hear the phone on extra loud even though it was right near my ear.

I see some play time is needed and as a healer it is really hard to say no and not want to work especially when my work brings me so much personal joy and satisfaction. I guess I learned I have limits!