Posts tagged “self awareness

Please don’t judge me based on my career Path!

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I wanted to share this with everyone here today! Sadly the work I do is not always revered or regarded with respect by a majority of people who reside here in the United States or other countries for that matter.
Just two days ago I was victimized on Craigslist because I responded to an ad from a man seeking a “gal friday” in exchange for reduced or no rent and a potential to earn extra money on the side.

I was toying with the idea of spending a month in Miami beach soon and I was hoping to find a nice live in situation where I could work and trade my skills which includes writing and cooking for a place to live.

I innocently responded using my email address butterflyshadows@aol.com and I asked how I could be of use to this man so I could share a space in exchange for work. This man without even responding to my email somehow linked me to my tantra website and started sending me text messages to my cell phone accusing me of being an “unwelcome pet” and he was going to monitor my account and my IP address as a violation of conduct.

So why am I the victim of harassment? Why did he decide that I am unworthy and I am a horrible human being because I teach tantra yoga and because I work with sacred sensuality? Am I committing a crime for wanting to help people and restore balance in someone’s life? Am I a horrible human being because I wanted to offer my skills or my ability to cook and clean and organize someone’s office space?

Instead of people judging first I wonder why people can’t be more civilized and humane and simply call directly on the phone rather than project their fear and their previous bad experiences or “wrongs” onto others. I feel this man had the need to misjudge and victimize me and report my account because he was taken advantage of by someone from his past and he felt the need to judge me and lash out on me because he sent me three angry text messages and said my account was going to be reported and monitored simply because I wanted to have reduced rent and respond to his ad using my real email address.

We have such a long long way to go before sex workers and healers are considered as equal as any other professional in this country. I don’t feel ashamed of who I am or what I represent I just wonder why there is so much ignorance and anger sent towards people in my field.
There seems to be so much misdirected angst and anger and so much healing that needs to be done on our inner psyche.

Why should we project a sense of anger or unworthiness unto anyone without first getting to know that person first? Shouldn’t we be judged by our actions and our conduct first?

The true intention of tantra massage is Not about achieving orgasm; it is about activating your ability to feel pleasure!

Everyone wants to know what it feels like to achieve a full body orgasm but few people understand that the true intention of tantra massage is to attain greater body awareness, mindfulness and a better connection to your own body. How do we learn to let go of our expectations? We learn to let go of our goals by simply focusing on our body. If you can be still and relax in the moment during a tantra healing or a tantra massage your body will feel “safe” and you are then giving your body permission to do what it needs to do to let go and feel blissful.
Bliss can either be attained through a yoga class, meditation, tantra massage or any pleasurable activity that takes you away from your ego or your mind. Yes I know this sounds very esoteric or erudite but tantra massage is so much more important than just a bodily response to pleasure.
It is true that we trigger all our pleasure zones or centers during a teasing tantra massage and light touch can be just as healing as a deep sports tissue massage. Never underestimate that a light, sensual stroke can uplift your spirits and heal your heart center in a way that is far more profound than a swedish massage. I recommend that if you are to fully appreciate a light touch you let go of all your prior expectations of what you have heard about tantra.
Some people are under the misconception that tantra is just about the sensual pleasure and the art of Eros; but true tantra is a spiritual journey and a real oasis you can return to often anytime you wish to balance out your body’s desires to be held sacred and your raw sexual energy. I would not go into a tantra ceremony with a long list of goals but focus on the breath and the results you achieve gradually over a few month’s time.
One needs to be patient with their tantra teacher and once you realize that the orgasm is simply a wonderful after affect of the energetic process of sensual awareness you can overcome your sense of fear and your lack of confidence with others.
You approach a tantra massage with an open heart and a willingness to learn more about yourself and your boundaries. If a touch is exceedingly pleasurable this is where you want to stretch out the breath and try and enjoy the sensations without guilt and without judgment. Do not think of having an orgasm. The major goal here is to feel a sense of being out of your body and out of your own mind. Do not think, do not doubt and just let the sensations unfold slowly. When you begin to feel numbness or tingling or warmth that is a good sign that your energy centers are beginning to communicate with each other and your sexual energy is traveling through all the different conduits slowly. Do not be disappointed with yourself if you only feel numbness. Do not worry if nothing seems to be build into the ultimate pinnacle of pleasure. You should relax and breathe in every sensation allowing the energies to flow where they need to be because energy tends to congregate in those areas of your body that needs the most healing.

Tantra is about renewal, regeneration and being fully present in each moment. We need to be patient with ourselves no matter how much or little we feel during a tantra ceremony. It is important to know that our body’s are wise and our body’s have an innate knowledge of what we are ready to experience regardless of whether we are able to achieve orgasm or not.The Mermaid